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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This discussion is no different than having a husband who complaind about your cooking.

The OP, (husband) would argue that they should sit down and discuss recipes and ingredients and salting food to taste.  All about what she should be doing.

The wife would say then you cook dinner or im not cooking or if you don't like it then don't eat it.

Then he would call her immature for disengaging.  Not stepping up to cook himself.

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I don’t think so.  My husband is a lot like OP.  He doesn’t care to cook, but he would occasionally say that he doesn’t like something I made.  I told him that he needs to fake it while we are eating.  Later, he can tell me not to make it again.  But when he complained during dinner, in front of the kids, it made me not want to cook for him anymore.  [/quote]

In your case, I would tell him in front of the kids that it is unacceptable to complain during dinner about food that someone else put time and effort to make for you.

I think some women are too gently with their husbands. These are grown ups. They will not break if you confront them/tell them to shut up(in a polite way in front of the kids ofcourse)

For me, the bigger problem in any marriage is not the spouse who is unappreciative. It is the spouse who swallows all the crap that the unappreciative spouse dishes and then grows resentful.

Point out in very clear terms to your spouse that they are unappreciative, annoying, rude in the instant. Otherwise, you begin to resent him and get to the "I do not give a darmn" stage.

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I don’t resent him. He fakes it really well.  Then later, he says something like, “I don’t really want you to make that again.”  Honestly, I am not interested in getting into a big fight with my husband at the dinner table.  [/quote]

When your husband says something that makes you not want to cook for him anymore, it is worth the fight. And if he is a smart guy, it should not be a big fight if you point it out to him there and then that he is being disrespectful and unappreciative. He will see why making stupid comments during dinner is just wrong and unappreciative.

When you swallow feelings of not wanting to do this and that for your spouse anymore, it builds resentment and distance. There is no other way around it.

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