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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As rude and insensitive as this is of them to leave for you to tackle while you are grieving, it is more rude and insensitive to ask living people to button up their lives so as not to inconvenience you when they are gone.

I have a similar situation and I'm resigned to having to do it when they are gone to preserve their dignity now. If they get a little more decrepit or scared, they might let me declutter. These are the same people who said 'never again' when we had to clean out my grandparents- who weren't hoarders- neat home, but just lots of stuff, like 6 sewing machines and a dozen hammers, etc and a house large enough that it wasn't messy. Now that they are aging, I think facing the clean up makes them think about their mortality and they do not want to do that.

If they don't respond to reason or guilt, I'd either send them on mini vacations or have other family members entertain them here and there while I go through things, or I'd bank that vacay time, preparing to use it when it's needed.

If they sound angry, there is no way you will get them cleaning out on your watch.[/quote]

If they didn't work on their own clutter after dealing with your grandparents' clutter, then I don't think that your parents were ever sincere when they said "never again" or they would have nipped their own situation in the bud years ago.

It took decades for them to accumulate all that stuff.  Decades!  They have not been elderly for decades have they?  And you, their beloved (middle aged) child, is supposed to swoop in when the time comes and clean it all up for them?  How many weeks of your hard earned vacation are you willing to spend doing that?

I'm in my 50's - not old at all.  But these tales have inspired me to start getting rid of the excess stuff in my own house.  I'm a book collector so those will stay.  But stuff that is just taking up room in a closet and is never used - that will go.

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