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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Step 1: Show real appreciation for everything she does for the family, house and you. Never stop doing this. 
Step 2: Start taking things off her plate and onto yours. Get to 50/50. 
Step 3: Start 2-3 date nights a month, you plan them and get sitter. Never stop doing this. 
Step 4: Go on sexy weekend trip. Tease her beforehand.

Point is, she lost attraction to something. Not you per se, but maybe some dynamic going on or building up.  COmmunication, picking up after you, trust in your word. You can do this![/quote]

HORRIBLE ADVICE, never ever works. You arent going to a55 kiss your way to desire. May be get some pathetic pity sex. OP needs to work on himself, not let his life revolve around her and reinforce her lack of desire for him. Its really transparent and begging is not attractive. If she sees he isn't hanging on waiting for a chance to have sex and is working on himself the realization he can and may leave will sink in. [/quote]

And jerk off in the meantime?[/quote]

Yes. But also start improving his flirtation skills. Start talking to women. Cold approach them. Get their numbers (but don't call them). Once he gets to the point where he's absolutely sure he can get other women, the improvement in his confidence is highly likely to change his wife's attitude about him.[/quote]

NP.  I actually sort of agree with this advice, but not quite as aggressive as PP describes it.  Get yourself in a place where you are as attractive as possible (whether by exercise or diet or grooming or whatever you need), and put yourself in a position where you're able to meet other people and engage with them (join a book club or whatever you do).  Don't cheat, because you're not an asshole, but put yourself in a position where you show yourself that you are attractive to others and that others would want you if you're open to it.  This will improve your self confidence immeasurably, and you'll develop your depth of personality by having a life outside your marriage.  Your wife (probably) will be attracted to the self confidence and to the attractive you, and also may realize she is lucky to have you when she sees others are interested.  At best, this may rekindle your relationship with your wife.  At worst, your wife won't care, but then you'll realize she's just not committed to your relationship anymore, and you're in a good position to find someone else who appreciates you.

This is very similar to advice online and in books for women who want to "affair proof" their marriages, or whose husbands have cheated.  Work on making yourself the best you, and develop a space for yourself outside the marriage.  That will make you more attractive to your partner.[/quote]

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