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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop the SAHM drama. This isn't the issue.

The guy is trying to work out his childhood issues with  the next generation. That's a bad, bad sign. He's 40 years old and hasn't dealt with these things  is a bad, bad sign. [/quote]

+1. Avoid guys with daddy issues. [/quote]

Hmm I have a more compassionate take. Who doesn't want to learn from experience? He wants to be a good provider. He is saying it is deeply meaningful to him to succeed at this and nurture his family by providing them with all the means for a good life, where his father didn't have the virtues to do that.

Speak to his desire to provide, which is really honorable. He would probably be fine with his DW taking up charitable, benevolent work because it sounds like that's in the neighborhood of where he is coming from - that's the good life for him: to be honorable.[/quote]

It is neither honorable nor virtuous to try to impose your views onto someone else. If he had couched this as "I think it's beneficial to have one parent stay at home and I would be very supportive if that's what you wanted too," this would be a different situation. Issuing what is essentially an ultimatum about how his hypothetical future wife should manage her career is controlling and creepy. And so is saying "I'd support you doing charitable work but not paid work."[/quote]

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