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[quote=Anonymous]OP sounds kind of immature. This isn't a "bombshell" and it doesn't require much analysis.

Not a bombshell:  lots of families--especially high income families--choose to have a SAHM. It is a perfectly reasonable preference that both men and women work towards (also perfectly reasonable for both parents to want to work). Not only is it not unreasonable, it's quite common in high paying/high stress industries. By having one parent (typically the wife) specialize on the home making front, the other parent is free to devote more time to the competitive career. All else being equal, by definition, the working parent has more hours to devote to the career and get ahead of the coworker who is also doing more on the domestic front.

Not much analysis required:  there are few things in relationships that are virtually non-negotiable or lack mutually acceptable compromises. How to raise kids is one of them. You really need to be on the same page or one parent is likely going to be making a compromise he/she will resent.

I don't think OP is wrong to want to work and her boyfriend isn't wrong to want a SAHW. They just aren't compatible and I would not continue the relationship on the hope that one partner's views would evolve over time. While it might happen, there is too much risk it won't happen and one partner will resent the other. [/quote]

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