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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop the SAHM drama. This isn't the issue.

The guy is trying to work out his childhood issues with  the next generation. That's a bad, bad sign. He's 40 years old and hasn't dealt with these things  is a bad, bad sign. [/quote]

+1. Avoid guys with daddy issues. [/quote]

Hmm I have a more compassionate take. Who doesn't want to learn from experience? He wants to be a good provider. He is saying it is deeply meaningful to him to succeed at this and nurture his family by providing them with all the means for a good life, where his father didn't have the virtues to do that.

Speak to his desire to provide, which is really honorable. He would probably be fine with his DW taking up charitable, benevolent work because it sounds like that's in the neighborhood of where he is coming from - that's the good life for him: to be honorable.[/quote]

Thar's not compassion that's codependency. Men are not projects pp. Lots of people have messed up childhoods that's not the dealbreaker the deal breaker is that h hasn't done the work. [b]It's a problem and will be a problem even if he does end up  getting that SAH wife[/b].[/quote]

How would it be a problem if he finds someone who wants the same things he wants? That may not be OP but I'm sure an attractive, fit, well to do man who is looking for a woman to settle down will find one fairly quickly.[/quote]

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