Reply to My child's name in on a KILL list

Forum Index » Elementary School-Aged Kids

Reply to "My child's name in on a KILL list"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can handle your daughter.  Start by teaching kindness and empathy.[/quote]

Blame the victim. Nice

Op, I'd schedule an in person meeting with the principal for today. Ask all your questions above. From there, I would determine next steps. [/quote]

NP here. Yes, see the principal in person but work fast to get other parents of kids on this list to go with you as a group. If parents have to leave work to do this, so be it. One parent can be dismissed as overreacting; a group of parents coming in to present a united front is far harder for a school to dismiss that way.

Say up front that you know school rules prohibit administrators from discussing with you any child who is not your own, so the principal knows you aren't there for that.

Then say you ALL are there to get specific assurances about safety procedures. Check school rules and bring a copy with you of whatever section covers threats made at students and how they are to be handled. Be sure a couple of parents are clearly taking notes during the meeting and are seen doing it. Don't leave until you have set a date on which the principal will contact you all about whatever specifics are discussed. Be sure to say that in school incidents too often the statement after the fact is "if only we'd called police sooner." While this child is clearly very distressed himself, your kids are distressed now too. I would not hesitate, if the principal is at all balky, to say that the group is prepared to go to the school board or whatever level is over principal's head if parents are not given specific assurances by a specific date. Follow up with an email acknowledging the meeting and listing any steps you were told were being taken so there is a paper trail.

Do not demonize the boy or his parents. In any way. That only makes you appear irrational. And it's cruel since he clearly is acting out of some desperate need for help. Focus on whether the school is doing enough to ensure safety beyond locked front doors and teachers being "made aware of the situation" which is all many schools would do. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics