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Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

Blame the victim. Nice

Op, I'd schedule an in person meeting with the principal for today. Ask all your questions above. From there, I would determine next steps.

NP here. Yes, see the principal in person but work fast to get other parents of kids on this list to go with you as a group. If parents have to leave work to do this, so be it. One parent can be dismissed as overreacting; a group of parents coming in to present a united front is far harder for a school to dismiss that way.

Say up front that you know school rules prohibit administrators from discussing with you any child who is not your own, so the principal knows you aren't there for that.

Then say you ALL are there to get specific assurances about safety procedures. Check school rules and bring a copy with you of whatever section covers threats made at students and how they are to be handled. Be sure a couple of parents are clearly taking notes during the meeting and are seen doing it. Don't leave until you have set a date on which the principal will contact you all about whatever specifics are discussed. Be sure to say that in school incidents too often the statement after the fact is "if only we'd called police sooner." While this child is clearly very distressed himself, your kids are distressed now too. I would not hesitate, if the principal is at all balky, to say that the group is prepared to go to the school board or whatever level is over principal's head if parents are not given specific assurances by a specific date. Follow up with an email acknowledging the meeting and listing any steps you were told were being taken so there is a paper trail.

Do not demonize the boy or his parents. In any way. That only makes you appear irrational. And it's cruel since he clearly is acting out of some desperate need for help. Focus on whether the school is doing enough to ensure safety beyond locked front doors and teachers being "made aware of the situation" which is all many schools would do.

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Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

+1. Stop excusing her behavior.

OK people. DD claims she has never done or said anything to the boy. I told her she must have done something or else her name wouldn't be on the list! She maintains she hasn't. DD was involved in 2 lunch room incidents last year. It was a bunch of boy and a bunch of girls fighting over the same table. Some boys got in trouble because of this. Everyone was talked to by the school. Kill List boy is one of the boys in the group.

nope, you are being snowed

Two things:
1.) your daughter is a bully or hangs out with the mean girls. 4 kids, NONE have been involved in any lunch room incidents much less 2......
2.) give the school a deadline to deal with it or you will take it to the police. Obviously they need to deal with the child who has a kill list but more importantly your DD and friends who are driving a child to have a kill list.

Don't know why you think you know more about the past than I do. You exclaim statements as thought you were there. You weren't. SO please stop. This is the last I will address you. DD reported the boys mean behavior and physical violence to the school last year. That got the boys in trouble. So there.

I don't need to know your past. Your child is no different that the typical mean girl/mean girl crowd that and their mothers think they are just darling and would NEVER be involved in anything mean. It is the boys alone right?

That was my first post BTW. There are more than just me saying you have a mean girl. Sometimes the truth hurts. Your child is mean or hangs with the mean kids. Good news is that she is young and can possibly be turned around. Parent your child now because a 4th grader's kill list isn't nearly as scary as a middle schooler's kill list.

Wow. Just wow. smh

Doesn't it make you feel so bad for those kids. I mean if their parents are going to be that hateful on the internet I can only imagine how they respond to difficulties in life.

Right. I think this PP's responses are crazy. I wonder if this PP has an aggressive child and is automatically defensive, assuming that her DC can only be that way because other kids are jerks.

Anonymous wrote:APSVA parent here. I notified an ACPD officer who works with the SROs at all the schools. She confirmed they will look into it.

Thanks, PP.

APSVA parent here. I notified an ACPD officer who works with the SROs at all the schools. She confirmed they will look into it.

Which school??

Can APSVA PPs who have stated that they intend to notify their schools please ID those schools, since OP won't ID her own? My child is at Drew. I'm happy to report this to our school, if someone hasn't done so already.

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Anonymous wrote:The immediate threat has been neutralized. The boy's parents have been informed. If they had a gun, they'd keep it secured given the situation. As for his mental state, that's anyones guess.

Whew. I hope you are right, OP, but I disagree strenuously with both the conceit that this kid can't be a threat because his parents are "high ranking" professionals (and I'll bet money the kid is white) and with your idea that they'll definitely secure their guns now.

When I was in high school, a kid came in with a gun and killed two classmates, and wounded 25. His parents were loving and supportive. His dad was a high school teacher and his mom was a college professor. They knew he was disturbed, but thought they could cure him of his obsession with guns by letting him shoot in a controlled environment.

He killed both of his parents, who were by all accounts kind, successful, and wonderful people. Then he opened fire in a school cafeteria.

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We really do NOT know that the guns are secured.

Which school???

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Anonymous wrote:Can't they just call the child's parents and have them take away his gun? It seems like it is scaring the kids on the kill list for no good reason. Do they know if the gun is even real?

No, and you can thank the NRA for that.

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Anonymous wrote:The immediate threat has been neutralized. The boy's parents have been informed. If they had a gun, they'd keep it secured given the situation. As for his mental state, that's anyones guess.

Whew. I hope you are right, OP, but I disagree strenuously with both the conceit that this kid can't be a threat because his parents are "high ranking" professionals (and I'll bet money the kid is white) and with your idea that they'll definitely secure their guns now.

When I was in high school, a kid came in with a gun and killed two classmates, and wounded 25. His parents were loving and supportive. His dad was a high school teacher and his mom was a college professor. They knew he was disturbed, but thought they could cure him of his obsession with guns by letting him shoot in a controlled environment.

He killed both of his parents, who were by all accounts kind, successful, and wonderful people. Then he opened fire in a school cafeteria.

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Anonymous wrote:If my child attended the same school I would be PISSED knowing the OP sat on this information and didn't immediately call the police. This is a kill list, this isn't an "i don't like these kids" list. The boy mentioned bringing a gun into his school. He has a list, and a plan. I don't care if he's 9, you call the police. You do not take a chance with hundreds of children's lives.

Boy mentioned wanting to bring the gun to school.

That is plenty to have him put into an inpatient psychiatric facility. Which is probably what he needs.

Are you a doctor?

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Anonymous wrote:If my child attended the same school I would be PISSED knowing the OP sat on this information and didn't immediately call the police. This is a kill list, this isn't an "i don't like these kids" list. The boy mentioned bringing a gun into his school. He has a list, and a plan. I don't care if he's 9, you call the police. You do not take a chance with hundreds of children's lives.

Boy mentioned wanting to bring the gun to school.

That is plenty to have him put into an inpatient psychiatric facility. Which is probably what he needs.

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Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

+1. Stop excusing her behavior.

OK people. DD claims she has never done or said anything to the boy. I told her she must have done something or else her name wouldn't be on the list! She maintains she hasn't. DD was involved in 2 lunch room incidents last year. It was a bunch of boy and a bunch of girls fighting over the same table. Some boys got in trouble because of this. Everyone was talked to by the school. Kill List boy is one of the boys in the group.

nope, you are being snowed

Two things:
1.) your daughter is a bully or hangs out with the mean girls. 4 kids, NONE have been involved in any lunch room incidents much less 2......
2.) give the school a deadline to deal with it or you will take it to the police. Obviously they need to deal with the child who has a kill list but more importantly your DD and friends who are driving a child to have a kill list.

Don't know why you think you know more about the past than I do. You exclaim statements as thought you were there. You weren't. SO please stop. This is the last I will address you. DD reported the boys mean behavior and physical violence to the school last year. That got the boys in trouble. So there.

I don't need to know your past. Your child is no different that the typical mean girl/mean girl crowd that and their mothers think they are just darling and would NEVER be involved in anything mean. It is the boys alone right?

That was my first post BTW. There are more than just me saying you have a mean girl. Sometimes the truth hurts. Your child is mean or hangs with the mean kids. Good news is that she is young and can possibly be turned around. Parent your child now because a 4th grader's kill list isn't nearly as scary as a middle schooler's kill list.

Wow. Just wow. smh

Doesn't it make you feel so bad for those kids. I mean if their parents are going to be that hateful on the internet I can only imagine how they respond to difficulties in life.

Anonymous wrote:If my child attended the same school I would be PISSED knowing the OP sat on this information and didn't immediately call the police. This is a kill list, this isn't an "i don't like these kids" list. The boy mentioned bringing a gun into his school. He has a list, and a plan. I don't care if he's 9, you call the police. You do not take a chance with hundreds of children's lives.

Boy mentioned wanting to bring the gun to school.

If my child attended the same school I would be PISSED knowing the OP sat on this information and didn't immediately call the police. This is a kill list, this isn't an "i don't like these kids" list. The boy mentioned bringing a gun into his school. He has a list, and a plan. I don't care if he's 9, you call the police. You do not take a chance with hundreds of children's lives.

Anonymous wrote:Can't they just call the child's parents and have them take away his gun? It seems like it is scaring the kids on the kill list for no good reason. Do they know if the gun is even real?

No, and you can thank the NRA for that.