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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you should've gotten more info out of your DH before kicking him out.  You're making a lot of assumptions about what happened, what he knew and when he knew it.

Just because the incident happened over a month ago doesn't mean the allegations are a month old.  The alleged victim might have filed a report only recently.  Even if the victim came forward right away, your DH may not have been implicated until recently. You jumped to so many conclusions without ever bothering to hear your DH's side of the story.

Also, even if your DH knew the investigation was going on, it's plausible that he didn't mention if he thought it had nothing to do with him and/or if his employer has asked everyone to keep it quiet.  Did you ask him why he didn't say anything sooner?

Also, just because a police officer says "we've been trying to contact you" doesn't mean they actually were.  Cops use various tactics when interacting with a suspect or a witness to gauge the person's reaction and credibility. While I understand your initial assumption that what the police said must be true, again, why didn't you confirm with your DH if the police truly had been trying to reach him?

Why did the police want to swab him?  Maybe they are taking swabs of everyone at the job site, or everyone who was present on the day/night in question.  Did you even bother to ask your DH?

Clearly, there are some underlying trust issues or something that prevents you from giving your DH the benefit of the doubt here.  If this happened to my DH, I'd want to at least hear his side of the story and try to get to the bottom of it even if I thought he was acting strangely.

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