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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Again, most of the lines from that list were busywork.

Vaccinating children, doctors appts, are not busywork.

Watching your ipad while you clean the storage closet, write thank you notes, dust the guest room, etc is busywork.[/quote]

What was busywork on the list?

1. Who purchased the airfare and booked the hotel on the last vacation?? Who chose what to do on the vacation and researched it in advance?  --> no vacation if you don't do this

2. Who chose and purchased the sheets on your bed? Or did these sheets just show up and you never thought about where th came from? --> no sheets if you don't do this

3. Who washes the sheets? Who knows when they were last wages? --> gross dirty sheets if you don't do this

4. Who chose the window coverings in your house and scheduled for them to be installed? Who made sure they match your decor? --> lack of sleep and privacy if you don't do this.  matching the decor I will concede may be busywork, but it's likely you benefit from having a well-decorated house, either by enjoying it yourself, or the status that comes from other people liking your house

5. Who scheduled the last doctor's appointment for your child? Who went? --> obviously not busy work

6. Who determined the Christmas Eve/day menu, went shopping for it and cooked? --> I don't believe for a second you really think "snacks at the gym" is OK for Christmas with kids.  Not busywork.

7. Who decided how to celebrate New Years? --> eh, I don't like New Years, so maybe this is busywork.

8. Who planned the last date night ? Who scheduled the babysitter for it? --> not busywork (assuming you want to go out with your wife)

9. Who scheduled your kid's birthday party, bought the cake, bought presents, had your kid write thank you not s? --> not busy work if your kid is going to have a halfway happy childhood

10. Who picked out the furniture and bedding in your childrens' rooms? --> not busy work. someone has to do this.  however, I could see some people taking longer to do this than others.

11. When is your child due for their next vaccine? Next doctor's appointment? When is registration for school? --> not busy work

12. Who made sure your child learned to swim? --> essential, life saving. not busy work

13. Who makes sure the dog has had a bath? --> I don't have a dog, so I don't know, but this sounds like a necessity.  Maybe busywork if one person wants to do it more frequently than necessary.

14. Who figured out what you'll do over thanksgiving and where you'll go? Who told others what the plan is? --. again, assuming you don't want your kids to have horrible childhoods, this isn't busywork.

Omg I could go on. [/quote]

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