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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand that you justifiable resentment has festered and is now spilling over onto innocent people's lives, ie the spouses that married into the family and their children.

What you need to do is talk to a therapist. You really MUST let this go, for your continued good health. A therapist will help you get through it.
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Or just go on these things and smile, damnit. It's a lot cheaper than therapy and I don't think therapy would help either - the more you talk and remember these things the madder you're going to get. Can you just think of the inheritance you're going to get instead? What about alcohol - can you have a drink before you go in there and another one in your hand? That can put the brakes on memories. Pop a Zoloft for family reunions?

My mother did similar to me with tuition compared to my brothers and she used to beat us and berate me all the time and I have a good relationship with her now that I have kids. I just had to set firm limits - she has to be pleasant, can't criticize (was hard for her). Now she just comes over to play with the kids or take them out to eat or she takes them clothes shopping.

There was no alcohol involved as this was my mother and if I have to I can tell her off (I did have to). My DH's mother? No way he'd have a fit ( but he also has a fit if I don't set my mother straight).

Now your DH's parents are grandparents to your kids and presumably more settled in life. Try to let it go and just enjoy what they have to offer and forget about the past stupidity.[/quote]

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