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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel this. As a woman nearing 50, I have zero close friendships in my life. It makes me sad and wondering what I am doing wrong.[/quote]

Sorry people are being so dismissive of your experiences just so they can dunk on Jen. It IS sad and it IS lonely not to have close friends in your life. Most of us will never have a gaggle of girlfriends that we can lounge around intimately with and that’s tough. Jen is unique in that she has such close relationships with her friends and it’s part of what drives followers to her. She used to post about them much more.

However what Jen doesn’t get is that “just putting yourself out there”, joining clubs and groups, etc. does NOT guarantee special friendships. “Showing up” for others time and time again doesn’t mean they’ll ever really show up for you.

I’m lucky to have a few close friends in my life who tell me they love me, who can raise me up in tough times, who often show up in invaluable ways. But my boyfriend is still the vast majority of my social life. I don’t have consistent friends since I was in undergrad who I can call up randomly in the week and say, come over for dinner, let’s get coffee, let’s just walk in the park. They just say ohhh no. They’re too tired, too busy, too sick or depressed, another time….

When we are together, the chemistry is undeniable. They tell me I’m the best and they’re so grateful for me. But it’s like somehow hanging out just a couple times a year has become the norm. That’s somehow enough for them? :(

I don’t know what the answer is to be honest. I acknowledge and carry the sadness. Sometimes I even upset at how unfair it feels. But I try and focus on gratitude and acceptance. I’m proud of my little family with my boyfriend and pets. I’m still incredibly privileged in my life with my own parents and siblings who truly are there day and night.

No one’s life is perfect. I mean look at Jen. Despite her having these incredible friends and friend-like siblings, she still feels lonely and insecure enough to stay with Tyler.

So we don’t need to trash her decades long friendships to feel better about ourselves. But we can acknowledge that all isn’t as it seems on social media. And that seeing these images can still make us feel longing and sadness.

Sorry for the rambling. 
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