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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these posts "I work while my child sleeps and I spend all the waking moments with them along with my DH who also works unicorn hours. When they are preschool age we choose the best school ever....." 
It's not real life, 99% of jobs are not like that and both parents equally parenting is difficult to manage too. Aren't parents often complaining about getting their spouse to take on more. I don't think the unicorn perfect parents of the world realize that most people cannot just "choose" this setup[/quote]

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"I SAHM with my children, I even sleep with them to maximize my time "raising" them" ... I don't shower or cook or clean or workout or run errands or take walks or go on dates or see friends or do girls weekend or vacatino with my H or visit family without them or get sick or let my H take them or let them do independent play ever so I'm never away from them. I would never spend 1 hour away let alone 3 that is reducing my "raising" time by 20%. I spaced my kids perfectly so my toddler would never take time away from my infant."

It's not real life, [b]99% of SAHM's are doing stuff without their children for hours a day, they are not with them 24x7. They spend at most 6 hours a day one on one with them. I [/b]don't think it would even be healthy to be this invested and involved in every breath your child takes. [/quote]

What on earth. I stayed at home until my kids were each 2 (because I wanted to give them and myself a European style maternity leave). During that time, I actually was with them for the vast majority of the day (and near them at night). I know exactly how much more it was than working parents, because My husband, who worked in an office, saw them a tiny fraction of that time (breakfast and then 6-8, when I was also home). The working parents trying to make the claim that it's even are truly deranged. It's not even close.

(Just to add my experience, my kids then went to play school at age 2 from 9-12 and then took a long nap at home in the afternoon, and bc we live in DC they started full day preschool at 3. And I worked when they were at playschool and then school). [/quote]
That pp tried to make some analogy but it fell flat because the info was wrong and sahms are never going to feel insecure about the amount of time they spend with their kid.
I don't think that poster realized the tone of the post they responded to.
A better analogy would be the sahm who claims to be a great chef/gardener/crafter/tutor/Ivy league/looks amazing/makes everyone's life easier/helps the elderly and volunteers for all causes, which is the impossible sahm unicorn.

It's great that super wohm/sahm moms exist and somehow magically maximize their schedules and energy, but seriously most of us are not doing all that and our kids are still doing well. 
The same goes for those married to the ever present and parenting 100% DH. Good for you! All things equal, that's the ideal but again, not the norm. Most couples do not have equally demanding jobs to split house stuff down the middle and even when they are, many women still struggle to get their DH to pick up more slack. 
High income makes a lot of this fade away but again, most are not able to outsource everything time consuming and inconvenient. [/quote]

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