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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, there is no in between for moms who can't afford basic needs without working and healthy retirement savings?[/quote]

I'm sure there's an in between.  But the idea that your kids will "throw you in a home" because they went to daycare is ridiculous.  Clearly there are nursing facilities full of working moms and SAHMs.  There really isn't a correlation.  I was just making the point that thanks to the fact I have kept working, I have a nice federal pension and retirement savings, so my kids won't be burdened with trying to pay for a facility and I'll be able to afford a nice high end one if that's what I choose to do.[/quote]

That would be an interesting study, however, comparing the numbers of SAHPs in nursing homes to their once working counterparts.  I wonder if there IS a correlation?

I've seen the opposite with people I've known - that more SAHs were in nursing homes. Of course, that could be generational, as most moms did stay home when I was a kid.  But I also look at finances, and the mothers who worked were - of course - much more independent, especially if they were divorced.

So financial security has a lot to do with it.  [/quote]

As an anecdote -- my paternal grandmother was a SAHM.  By her 70s she was mentally deteriorating and when my grandmother passed, she became a recluse.  I loved her, but she was very helpless and relied on my parents for everything until she passed away in her 90s.

My other grandmother is in her early 90s and ran her own business from home until she sold it in her mid-80s.  She still does consulting work, is very up to date on current events, has an active social life (her neighbors in their 30s and 40s invite her over for happy hours!). But my grandfather on that side is still alive, so I think that has helped her remain independent.

I don't think there's necessarily a SAH/WOH divide, but I do think women who foster relationships and interests outside the home stay mentally sharper once their kids leave the nest. [/quote]

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