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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Too often, women make choices based on fear of what other people will think. In doing so, they end up with a lifestyle that is a horrible fit for their needs and personality. Sure, I'd like to have a big house and a nice car and a million friends and social obligations and all those things - in theory. Turns out, I'm happiest being a homebody with a stable job that will never make me rich, and I married a man with similar values. I'm not complaining about my DH on DCUM or anywhere else. [/quote]

I wish I had known that before the house, car, obligations, etc. But for a lot of us it's hard to turn back now. The damage is done. The debts are there. The resentment towards DH is there. I'm not sure how to undo it all and live more simply at this point..[/quote]

Try baby steps. Next car, pick something less expensive and hold onto it for longer. Next vacation, try something domestic instead of international. Next date night, try cooking together at home instead of an expensive restaurant in the city. Next free day with the family, try playing board games together instead of buying expensive tickets to a game. These things will bring your family together, strengthen your relationship, and a save you money, too.[/quote]

This! This! This! It really isn't that hard at all. These suggestions are so simple and so easy to implement.  You don't need things nearly as much as you think you do. When I got divorced, I really wanted to simplify. (Not to mention being on a new budget and financial situation forces you to.) I moved to a tiny apartment, but that I loved and was cozy. I didn't have cable or *gasp* internet. I absolutely loved spending Saturday afternoons at the library using the wifi and then. Ugh ya at home listening to music and reading. I honestly feel that by living really simply for a few years without the usual constant sources of modern entertainment helped me figure out who I really am. I'm engaged now and living with my fiancé but we still have a simple, small, old house and live pretty frugally. (We have cable and Internet because my landlord includes it, lol). We go for walks. We vacation with friends at inexpensive and druveable places. We turn down many invites to go to dinner or happy hour to save money. It really is not hard, and so fulfilling. You just make one decision at a time and learn to love the moment you're in and enjoy quiet. [/quote]

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