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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]sorry, but sah with babies and toddlers is absolutely harder than sah with ES and older kids. Are you kidding? Sah with babies and toddlers are constant feeding/diaper changing/potty training/educating/dealing with tantrums/dealing with mess and spit up plus the groceries/laundry/cooking/errands with kids in tow! As a sah parent of an older kid you get the kids it the door (but they can dress themselves and brush their teeth and find their library book and maybe even make their lunch) and then you have hours of freedom! Then you pick them up and drive them to a class or sport where another teacher or coach is in charge of them.

I was a sah and now that my kids are in school I work and it is SO much easier now than it was when I was home with them as babies. Hands down.[/quote]

You're missing the whole point. It may be easier on you now, but it's more important for kids in elementary school, middle school and high school to have their parents present than babies and toddlers. [b]Your role as a parent becomes much more complex and important the older they get. I'm okay having a daycare teacher help potty train, not so okay having an au pair help navigate middle school homework and social problems. [/b]In addition, you can drop kids off at daycare and pick them up at the same place after 10 hours when they're babies and toddlers. Not so much when they're elementary, middle and high schoolers. That's when their schedule dictates yours.[/quote]

this is so well said.[/quote]

News flash -- homework help and helping with social problems need not happen before 5 p.m., most high schoolers aren't even home from school by then.[/quote]

I know, right? I'm in Loudoun County and our middle school dismissal is at 330 and high school at 4pm. My kids for one are often staying late for clubs and sports. It's not like they are running home to hang on mommy's apron strings and eat their graham crackers and milk while asking my assistance to navigate their social lives. [/quote]

My kids are only 5 and 7. However, I have heard from multiple older parents who say the most important time to be home is the middle and high school years. Not every kid does sports everyday after school.[/quote]

I have older kids, and am a former SAH and respectfully disagree.  I will say with college admissions the way they are now, most kids need to pick some extracurriculars for college admission and they easiest way to do that is at school.  My kids are at private schools and are required to have after school activities.[/quote]

Agree. If your kids are college bound,  going home after school and sitting on your rump isn't going to cut it.

Your can argue contrary 3 ways till Sunday.  But this is a damn fact.

OF COURSE not all kids can or do do sports, but they better be doing something if they want to go to a 4yr college  (though there is no shame in community college).[/quote]

This is incorrect.  A child does not have to do after school activities every day to get into a 4 year college.  Both my children come/came home when school is/was out, except on rare occasions.  One currently just finished his first year at a top ten engineering college.  No sports, was in a musical group, did scouts and was active in our denomination's youth organization.  The second one is currently a junior in HS and has his choice of almost any college he wants. He is home everyday and 95% of the time has his homework done before dinner.  Grades and rigor of classes are the number ONE thing.  ECs do not have to be time hogs and do not have to be immediately after school.  They can happen in the evening after homework is done and on the weekends.  [/quote]

Not according to college admission offices.  Sorry, anyone who says their kid can get in any college they want has zero credibility.  Plenty of kids with perfect scores and grades get turned away from the top schools every years.[/quote]

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