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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Sil's husband left her and the kids after 23 years of marriage. Everything was great until a ex gf looked him up from another state, and stalked them.  By the time I helped sil look her up, he had already left.  She had just divorced her 3rd husband, they were broke and she needed another life preserver. She was prettier and a little younger than sil, but shockingly he left his family like they were yesterday's garbage.

Long story but it was a very ugly 2.5 year divorce. He not only wanted the woman, but they BOTH wanted her nice home that was paid off.  The judge gave her the home, she took less on the retirement.  They ended up getting married and none of their 3 kids talk to him today, he doesn't see his grand-kids either.  The great part is after 5 years that OW died of some heart thing.  Less than a year later he started calling my sil to see if they could get back together, OMG.  She told him where to go and to never call her or the kids again.  Today he is in poor health and all alone except for his dog.

We have great laughs at times about the deceased OW, and stuff they did to her, how Karma got them both and how well she is doing.

Remind your mother how glad you are she doesn't have to live that that any longer, BUT the bimbo does and what a sad life she got out of.  That's how I would handle it fyi.  [/quote]

OP here. That's a vindicating story.

The thing is: nothing bad has happened to or with dad and/or his wife. She works in the corporate world (my mom's in nonprofit) and so they have an absurdly higher household income than my mom and dad ever did. They live lavishly: they take nice vacations, have beautiful things, etc. Everything genuinely seems to be good - and they seem really happy together, which my mom and dad never were.

I sense that it's easier for my mom to place the blame squarely on OW, because[b] my dad in truth did screw her (he's a lawyer - no surprise there)[/b]. She'd stayed home for years with my brother and was just getting back into the job market when he told her he wanted the divorce. He left her high and dry. She ended up having to sell our house and was deeply emotionally impacted, which negatively affected her work performance.

I don't want to blather on but I want to make it clear that I understand her pain, but it sometimes feels like a huge burden for her to continuously berate dad's wife. [/quote]

I agree that your mom needs to stop but, I'm surprised you have any sort of relationship with Dad/OW considering the impact of the divorce.  It's one thing to be a philanderer and move on -- it's another thing to also screw her over in the divorce.  Your dad is a dick.

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