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[quote=Anonymous]Thank you 10:21 and 11:17.  That was me.  I did feel awfully misunderstood.  I guess I explained my position poorly.  I was just saying that I take responsibility for bringing up nice, well-mannered children who treat everyone s/he come across with an equal level of respect and courtesy.  Yes, we are well off, my children have lots of lovely things and advanatges, as did I , and I want to make sure they are nice people, too.  My parents made sure we were.  I think that is my job as a parent.  I know we are extremely fortunate.  I thank God for my life all the time.  Yes, we have had nannies and au pairs and maids the childrens' entire lives.  My children have always been expected to speak to these people the same way they would address my husband or me.  My dismay is at the friends of my children who are also in private school and priviledged and come over and are really rude to these people, and sometimes to me, too.  I think it is appalling and sad.  I tell them that behavior is not acceptable in our house, and have told our au pair/nany/maid to do the same.  If they do not stop, they are not invited back.   Truly though, its not the childrens' fault, its the parents.  It just seems to me that these are often the parents who send their children off to Mrs. Simpsons or Cotillion to "learn" manners, like the parents quoted in the article.  I do believe that true manners are taught at home.  Cotillion and Mrs. S's are for, like I said, the finishing touches (e.g. dancing, bowing, sipping punch, learning a receiving line, etc..).  I, for one, learned which fork/spoon/knife to use by having formal family dinners (yes, sometimes at clubs or nice restaurants) and by setting the table for those dinners at home.  I just think people need to take more responsibility for their children's behavior before they are in 4th grade and then send them off to "a school" for it.  Its lazy and detrimental to society at large.[/quote]

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