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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is getting insane.

DC is in daycare full time. I'm not sure why everyone's accusing me of working from home and watching her. That would be impossible.

DH is deployed. He steps up at home, when he is home. That should also explain why we can't just move.

I work for a consulting company, hence the telework, degree required.

I want to be able to buy groceries during the week, and go to the doctor (I realize this is my micromanaging boss's fault) and have my hair cut and not spend every waking moment picking up. Maybe that last is a two year old thing, I don't know. [/quote]

So the reason why you are having a difficult time is that your DH is deployed. When my DH was deployed, I had a 2yo and 4yo. I thought I was going to lose my mind. I was so overwhelmed with drop off, pick up and never getting a break. I was very bitter than my BIL in Baltimore did not come down to help out with the kids like he had promised.

By month 2, I thought I was going to lose my mind. There were quite a few times that we were all crying/screaming and calling DH in Afghanistan. I don't know if other mothers are just better at it but I was stressed out all the time. I did all he drop off and most pick ups but at least when DH is around, he can be with kids while I go to the grocery store or target at night. I started outsourcing more. We started with only cleaning every other week. Then I called in my parents but they were also driving me nuts so their help cancelled out any help they gave me. I ended up getting our old nanny to come around 10-15 hrs per week. She came like one evening during the week, one weekend day all day. She couldn't substitute DH but at least she could watch the kids while I got a small break, ran errands, cook for us, do our laundry, etc.

I would recommend getting a mother's helper even for 5 hours per week.[/quote]

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