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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Only as the kids have gotten older and my son has risen to the top (hate the term but its the only way to get the point across) have they suddenly taken notice and now because it's in THEIR best interest or they have something to gain because it serves them, are they suddenly mildly interested whereas they were rude and cold to me when I needed a friend the most (when I got there and knew no one), I also had invited a group of them to my home for coffee the second year I was there to reach out one more time and most said yes but 2 days before one of them changed a bday luncheon to which many of them were invited and about 6 or 7 of them cancelled on me to attend the luncheon. The only ones that did come were not invited or part of that circle. [/quote]

OP First impressions are lasting ones. And that first impression has lasted for you. Probably they were not even thinking about you. But part of the point is that they were not thinking of you, even though they had accepted your invite. Rude. I am also a parent at a Big 3. All of our money is tied in a trust so we live simply. The other parents just think we are poor. So I know what you mean. And speaking of mean, some people just are. And some are just thoughtless.

The parents are not riding on your DS coat tails. What they are doing is checking you out. Are you suitable for their dear DCs? They want to know if your golden son is leading them down a dark and previously unknown path (one the parents are not aware of) It is not pleasant to be checked out that way. We have lived many places and have endured this many times. We just roll with it. Sometimes we become friends and some times not.

If there have been other incidents, I would say definitely NO. If not, its just dinner. But you have to get over your hurt feelings, at least for the duration of the dinner. Remember, it is perfectly OK if you decide you don't mesh with them after all. And most of the PP on this board have never been in a Big 3, CC, etc ect.
It is a bit boring to hear about the 2nd and 3rd houses after all.
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