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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you find out some fancy place they like to go and go there?  And invite them to go too?[/quote]

OP here.  Given that our kids are 12 months and 3 years old, we are not interested in spending $$$ and going to fancy places right now.  Our inexpensive beach town vacations where we can take a lot of naps, eat kid friendly food and that are within driving distance seem like the best and easiest choice for right now, especially given that we won't have any childcare help on the trip.  When they're older, sure, fancy vacations may be more appealing.[/quote]

So, it's not so much that your parents don't want to vacation with you, they don't want to go on inexpensive, family-friendly vacations with you and you don't want to go on adult, more expensive vacations with them.

You know what?  My parents and siblings don't want to go on those types of inexpensive family-friendly vacations either.  We have 4 yo twins and my parents are in their 80's and my siblings kids are in their 20's (we are the youngest and they had kids early, we had kids late).  For the last 3 years, we've taken the kids on vacations with the family that the family also enjoys.  It means that we do have to spend a little more money for the family to vacation together, but so be it.  I'm not making this a hill to die on and blaming my parents for not wanting to go to the beach and eat at inexpensive, family-friendly restaurants.  That's not a very appealing vacation for them.  So, we've taken them to the grandparents house once, then we went on a cruise once where everyone enjoyed the levels of accommodation they wanted, and we went to a resort once.  It was more expensive than our private vacations, but we were able to do some family-friendly and inexpensive side trips or meals while still spending a significant amount of time with the family.  It was the compromise that allowed my kids to go on vacation with the grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins without making the family take vacations they weren't interested in.

So, you need to take responsibility that you don't want to go on vacation with your parents rather than they don't want to go on vacation with you.  They are perfectly happy with sharing time with their grandchildren at your home.  If you want to go on vacation together, you need to do so on terms that they can accept rather than forcing them to go on your terms.[/quote]

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