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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you chose to have three kids with a man you don't respect?[/quote]

Like I have said multiple times. He put on a good show until recently. Made a lot of false promises and statements to me. I feel duped in a lot of ways. Promises to move for 3-4 years (our youngest is now 3 and sharing a bedroom with two older siblings). Yes this area is expensive. But the current arrangement (family of 5 in a two bedroom condo) is laughable. [/quote]

Really?

Nothing about this post seems real.[/quote]

We're starting to get to the bottom of this. As she hinted to in previous posts, this guy checked all the superficial boxes prior to marriage (private school education), but once the rubber hit the road, i.e. having a family, the light shined upon her. Let this be a lesson to all the little ladies out there that the keys to a successful marriage and family runs beyond checking boxes like private school education and social standing.[/quote]

So why'd she keep having children with him? I'm sorry, but I find some of the details hard to believe (e.g., I'm a total MILF! We have three children in a two-bedroom condo!) Maybe I'm wrong, but it feels off.[/quote]

OP Again, nothing is off.  We have a nice condo in a nice part of DC, but it is too small. Great neighborhood. But too small. I am not Halle Berry, but am attractive and take care of myself - not overweight, fit build, professional style. I didn't "settle" for DH because I am unattractive, as some PPs imply. I had plenty of options when DH and I met and started dating. Again, as I said before, I think it was a situation of meeting each other at the right time, as opposed to necessarily meeting the right person. I had had relationships with guys who wouldn't commit or who cheated on me.  DH isn't that way. As I have stated before, DH is a good guy, and there are a lot of things I do love about him, but it's the lack of motivation and ability to do anything without procrastinating for months/years that is wearing thin. The empty promises of finding a new place (for three years now...we started the conversation when I got pregnant with #3, who is now 3), have been to countless open houses, but can never get DH motivated enough to pull the trigger. The failure to finish things he starts. Lack of motivation to find a new job. Lack of decision making. Constant procrastination. No desire to move up in the world, if not for us...at least for the sake of our children! Dropping the ball constantly on things related to the kids.  And then complaining and whining at me when I finally make decisions. As others have said, a man-child.  When it was the four of us in the condo, we knew things got tight and when I was pregnant, we agreed to move....but then it just never happens. No matter how many places we look at. No many how many great condos or townhouses we see. In this market, when something good comes up, you have to move fast. And, as discussed, DH cannot move fast....if he moves at all.[/quote]

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