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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised by these responses. OPs love for the child should be conditional on whether or not he's the father. Parenting is a huge investment and it's easy to find out the facts so why not do it?[/quote]

Sure, if all you love about them is the 50% of their genetics that came from you, and not your actual child. What a narcissistic view of parenting.[/quote]

I am heartless pp who would want to know. I am also someone whose biological father left when I was 10, and who was raised by a loving stepfather.  I am also a father myself.  Being a parent is a huge emotional and financial investment, and in many ways a burden (though a very fulfilling one). Raising a child who you were basically tricked into believing was biologically yours would be a huge mind fuck. I would absolutely not emotionally or physically abandon the child, but I would damn sure not want to be the primary financial support for the child when the relationship with the mom terminates. There are all kinds of messy, complicated parenting situations. Having unknown paternity be the elephant in the room imo would be worse than getting it out in the open and dealing with it. [/quote]

A paternity test wouldn't change your legal and financial obligations to the child.  It wouldn't change the fact that the child is legally yours.  Any child born to a member of a married couple, during the course of the marriage, is legally the child of and the financial responsibility of both parties.  [/quote]

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