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I find it pathetic when people refer to themselves as the "CEO/CFO" of the home economy. It is disrespectful and insulting to people who hold a f/t position outside of the home while juggling parenthood.[/quote]

Well, you are not juggling parenthood. You are paying someone to take care of your kids and you get to spend the least amount of time with your child. You are a part time parent at best. Yes, you are a working woman who brings in a paycheck - but you are not a full time parent. And even when you are present, you are tired and distracted and not giving 100% to your child.

In a household that does not require the paycheck, your contribution is that of a part time parent.  In a two parent household, one parent will always be unavailable for the duration of the work day. For the children to not have both the parents is not optimal. However, good child care providers fill in the role of the SAHP in raising the kids.  So, go an thank the nanny and day care provider for stepping in an being a parent to your kid in the time that you are not.

Your saying that you are juggling parenthood is disrespectful and insulting to parents who stay with their kids and raise them. [/quote]

Wow - you and the PP you refer to really just embody the worst of DCUM and of parents in general.  I don't care if people call themselves CEO of their homes. What is wrong with you that THAT, of all things, bothers you ? You are pathetic to get riled up about that.

And SAHM poster, you took the bait and are being so nasty, too.  I WOHM and am confident that I am a great parent, so I see no need to cut down others to make myself feel better.  The two of you should be ashamed of yourselves.  Go back and read what you wrote.  THAT is pathetic. [/quote]
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Actually, you think it is pathetic only after I became as nasty as the WOHM[/b].  So, thank you for your reaction, it was very illuminating.  I think what is pathetic is that every single week there is some disparaging remarks about SAHMs.  I very rarely see a thread that asks WOHMs how they spend their days or  how their DH allows them to be on the gravy train etc.  WOHMs bring in a paycheck and SAHMs are with their children more  than WOHMs are. This is the reality and not an apples to apples comparison.  But hey, this SAHM can actually do some plain talking.[/quote]

This makes no sense.  You and the nasty WOHM pp are still both pathetic.  I hope that it is, in fact, illuminating and inspires you to be kinder and less judgmental of others. [/quote]

No, what is pathetic that no WOHM calls out another WOHM when they attack SAHMs and vice versa on DCUM.   You are pathetic if you do not speak up. It requires a backlash for you to come here and clutch at your pearls? Well, get over it!

IRL, my best friends are WOHMs, SAHMs and WAHMs. I would steer clear of DCUM type crazies IRL. [/quote]

I think you are selectively ignoring the many WOHMs who defend SAHMs, even on this thread!  I frequently call out people on their anti-SAHM nonsense, but it sounds like this is a very sensitive subject for you.  I'm not touchy or oversensitive about people making anti-WOHM comments because I'm confident and happy that I'm doing the best for my family.  What's your deal?[/quote]

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