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Anonymous wrote:"But, I digress. This snarky thread was about "how much allowance a SAHM gets" - and I wanted to say that being able to SAHM is a choice many women make when their financial situation allows them to or if that is what the family needs. If I needed to earn money in the future, I would go back to work. Would I be happy about working for pay? No, mainly because it would take me away from my kids and home - but I would do it anyways because thats what my family needed.

Having money is great when it allows you to spend more time with your family. My money allows me to do that. How is that impacting your life and your situation?"

Looking forward to your helpful advice for the next DCUM SAHM Poster whose husband has taken a powder and left her and the kids flat. Can't wait.

Right now, I am trying to advise the WOHM weighing 190 lbs on the relationship forum. Her husband who weighs only 135 lbs can't bear to touch her. In the meanwhile her married male colleagues want to have sex with her. Will she let them or won't she? Will her marriage survive, or won't it? In the meanwhile - do we know what is happening with her child? Will she try the Paleo diet? Stay tuned.

Are you advising her that she should weigh 145??

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Anonymous wrote:"But, I digress. This snarky thread was about "how much allowance a SAHM gets" - and I wanted to say that being able to SAHM is a choice many women make when their financial situation allows them to or if that is what the family needs. If I needed to earn money in the future, I would go back to work. Would I be happy about working for pay? No, mainly because it would take me away from my kids and home - but I would do it anyways because thats what my family needed.

Having money is great when it allows you to spend more time with your family. My money allows me to do that. How is that impacting your life and your situation?"

Looking forward to your helpful advice for the next DCUM SAHM Poster whose husband has taken a powder and left her and the kids flat. Can't wait.

Right now, I am trying to advise the WOHM weighing 190 lbs on the relationship forum. Her husband who weighs only 135 lbs can't bear to touch her. In the meanwhile her married male colleagues want to have sex with her. Will she let them or won't she? Will her marriage survive, or won't it? In the meanwhile - do we know what is happening with her child? Will she try the Paleo diet? Stay tuned.

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I find it pathetic when people refer to themselves as the "CEO/CFO" of the home economy. It is disrespectful and insulting to people who hold a f/t position outside of the home while juggling parenthood.

Well, you are not juggling parenthood. You are paying someone to take care of your kids and you get to spend the least amount of time with your child. You are a part time parent at best. Yes, you are a working woman who brings in a paycheck - but you are not a full time parent. And even when you are present, you are tired and distracted and not giving 100% to your child.

In a household that does not require the paycheck, your contribution is that of a part time parent. In a two parent household, one parent will always be unavailable for the duration of the work day. For the children to not have both the parents is not optimal. However, good child care providers fill in the role of the SAHP in raising the kids. So, go an thank the nanny and day care provider for stepping in an being a parent to your kid in the time that you are not.

Your saying that you are juggling parenthood is disrespectful and insulting to parents who stay with their kids and raise them.

Wow - you and the PP you refer to really just embody the worst of DCUM and of parents in general. I don't care if people call themselves CEO of their homes. What is wrong with you that THAT, of all things, bothers you ? You are pathetic to get riled up about that.

And SAHM poster, you took the bait and are being so nasty, too. I WOHM and am confident that I am a great parent, so I see no need to cut down others to make myself feel better. The two of you should be ashamed of yourselves. Go back and read what you wrote. THAT is pathetic.

Actually, you think it is pathetic only after I became as nasty as the WOHM. So, thank you for your reaction, it was very illuminating. I think what is pathetic is that every single week there is some disparaging remarks about SAHMs. I very rarely see a thread that asks WOHMs how they spend their days or how their DH allows them to be on the gravy train etc. WOHMs bring in a paycheck and SAHMs are with their children more than WOHMs are. This is the reality and not an apples to apples comparison. But hey, this SAHM can actually do some plain talking.

This makes no sense. You and the nasty WOHM pp are still both pathetic. I hope that it is, in fact, illuminating and inspires you to be kinder and less judgmental of others.

No, what is pathetic that no WOHM calls out another WOHM when they attack SAHMs and vice versa on DCUM. You are pathetic if you do not speak up. It requires a backlash for you to come here and clutch at your pearls? Well, get over it!

IRL, my best friends are WOHMs, SAHMs and WAHMs. I would steer clear of DCUM type crazies IRL.

Anonymous wrote:"But, I digress. This snarky thread was about "how much allowance a SAHM gets" - and I wanted to say that being able to SAHM is a choice many women make when their financial situation allows them to or if that is what the family needs. If I needed to earn money in the future, I would go back to work. Would I be happy about working for pay? No, mainly because it would take me away from my kids and home - but I would do it anyways because thats what my family needed.

Having money is great when it allows you to spend more time with your family. My money allows me to do that. How is that impacting your life and your situation?"

Looking forward to your helpful advice for the next DCUM SAHM Poster whose husband has taken a powder and left her and the kids flat. Can't wait.

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I find it pathetic when people refer to themselves as the "CEO/CFO" of the home economy. It is disrespectful and insulting to people who hold a f/t position outside of the home while juggling parenthood.

Well, you are not juggling parenthood. You are paying someone to take care of your kids and you get to spend the least amount of time with your child. You are a part time parent at best. Yes, you are a working woman who brings in a paycheck - but you are not a full time parent. And even when you are present, you are tired and distracted and not giving 100% to your child.

In a household that does not require the paycheck, your contribution is that of a part time parent. In a two parent household, one parent will always be unavailable for the duration of the work day. For the children to not have both the parents is not optimal. However, good child care providers fill in the role of the SAHP in raising the kids. So, go an thank the nanny and day care provider for stepping in an being a parent to your kid in the time that you are not.

Your saying that you are juggling parenthood is disrespectful and insulting to parents who stay with their kids and raise them.

Wow - you and the PP you refer to really just embody the worst of DCUM and of parents in general. I don't care if people call themselves CEO of their homes. What is wrong with you that THAT, of all things, bothers you ? You are pathetic to get riled up about that.

And SAHM poster, you took the bait and are being so nasty, too. I WOHM and am confident that I am a great parent, so I see no need to cut down others to make myself feel better. The two of you should be ashamed of yourselves. Go back and read what you wrote. THAT is pathetic.

Actually, you think it is pathetic only after I became as nasty as the WOHM. So, thank you for your reaction, it was very illuminating. I think what is pathetic is that every single week there is some disparaging remarks about SAHMs. I very rarely see a thread that asks WOHMs how they spend their days or how their DH allows them to be on the gravy train etc. WOHMs bring in a paycheck and SAHMs are with their children more than WOHMs are. This is the reality and not an apples to apples comparison. But hey, this SAHM can actually do some plain talking.

This makes no sense. You and the nasty WOHM pp are still both pathetic. I hope that it is, in fact, illuminating and inspires you to be kinder and less judgmental of others.

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I find it pathetic when people refer to themselves as the "CEO/CFO" of the home economy. It is disrespectful and insulting to people who hold a f/t position outside of the home while juggling parenthood.

Well, you are not juggling parenthood. You are paying someone to take care of your kids and you get to spend the least amount of time with your child. You are a part time parent at best. Yes, you are a working woman who brings in a paycheck - but you are not a full time parent. And even when you are present, you are tired and distracted and not giving 100% to your child.

In a household that does not require the paycheck, your contribution is that of a part time parent. In a two parent household, one parent will always be unavailable for the duration of the work day. For the children to not have both the parents is not optimal. However, good child care providers fill in the role of the SAHP in raising the kids. So, go an thank the nanny and day care provider for stepping in an being a parent to your kid in the time that you are not.

Your saying that you are juggling parenthood is disrespectful and insulting to parents who stay with their kids and raise them.

Wow - you and the PP you refer to really just embody the worst of DCUM and of parents in general. I don't care if people call themselves CEO of their homes. What is wrong with you that THAT, of all things, bothers you ? You are pathetic to get riled up about that.

And SAHM poster, you took the bait and are being so nasty, too. I WOHM and am confident that I am a great parent, so I see no need to cut down others to make myself feel better. The two of you should be ashamed of yourselves. Go back and read what you wrote. THAT is pathetic.

Actually, you think it is pathetic only after I became as nasty as the WOHM. So, thank you for your reaction, it was very illuminating. I think what is pathetic is that every single week there is some disparaging remarks about SAHMs. I very rarely see a thread that asks WOHMs how they spend their days or how their DH allows them to be on the gravy train etc. WOHMs bring in a paycheck and SAHMs are with their children more than WOHMs are. This is the reality and not an apples to apples comparison. But hey, this SAHM can actually do some plain talking.

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I find it pathetic when people refer to themselves as the "CEO/CFO" of the home economy. It is disrespectful and insulting to people who hold a f/t position outside of the home while juggling parenthood.

Well, you are not juggling parenthood. You are paying someone to take care of your kids and you get to spend the least amount of time with your child. You are a part time parent at best. Yes, you are a working woman who brings in a paycheck - but you are not a full time parent. And even when you are present, you are tired and distracted and not giving 100% to your child.

In a household that does not require the paycheck, your contribution is that of a part time parent. In a two parent household, one parent will always be unavailable for the duration of the work day. For the children to not have both the parents is not optimal. However, good child care providers fill in the role of the SAHP in raising the kids. So, go an thank the nanny and day care provider for stepping in an being a parent to your kid in the time that you are not.

Your saying that you are juggling parenthood is disrespectful and insulting to parents who stay with their kids and raise them.

Wow - you and the PP you refer to really just embody the worst of DCUM and of parents in general. I don't care if people call themselves CEO of their homes. What is wrong with you that THAT, of all things, bothers you ? You are pathetic to get riled up about that.

And SAHM poster, you took the bait and are being so nasty, too. I WOHM and am confident that I am a great parent, so I see no need to cut down others to make myself feel better. The two of you should be ashamed of yourselves. Go back and read what you wrote. THAT is pathetic.

Actually, you think it is pathetic only after I became as nasty as the WOHM. So, thank you for your reaction, it was very illuminating. I think what is pathetic is that every single week there is some disparaging remarks about SAHMs. I very rarely see a thread that asks WOHMs how they spend their days or how their DH allows them to be on the gravy train etc. WOHMs bring in a paycheck and SAHMs are with their children more than WOHMs are. This is the reality and not an apples to apples comparison. But hey, this SAHM can actually do some plain talking.

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I find it pathetic when people refer to themselves as the "CEO/CFO" of the home economy. It is disrespectful and insulting to people who hold a f/t position outside of the home while juggling parenthood.

Well, you are not juggling parenthood. You are paying someone to take care of your kids and you get to spend the least amount of time with your child. You are a part time parent at best. Yes, you are a working woman who brings in a paycheck - but you are not a full time parent. And even when you are present, you are tired and distracted and not giving 100% to your child.

In a household that does not require the paycheck, your contribution is that of a part time parent. In a two parent household, one parent will always be unavailable for the duration of the work day. For the children to not have both the parents is not optimal. However, good child care providers fill in the role of the SAHP in raising the kids. So, go an thank the nanny and day care provider for stepping in an being a parent to your kid in the time that you are not.

Your saying that you are juggling parenthood is disrespectful and insulting to parents who stay with their kids and raise them.

Okaay, how much is your allowance?

LOL. You are funny! First of all, I have my own earned money, inheritance, and property. I handle the household finances and I have a right over 50% of whatever DH has earned. No prenup. DH is from a moneyed family too and also has inheritance that will come to him. So, money is immaterial.

I do not need an allowance. I do have a budget for the chap who mows my lawn and the maid who comes in twice a week, but I made that budget.

Money is a great thing if it allows you to spend more time with your family.

Hysterical - you are apparently swimming in money that you didn't earn and are judging people who are working to draw a salary. The vast majority of working mothers NEED their paychecks. Must be so easy to judge people for working when you are spoiled and financial security is not an issue.

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I find it pathetic when people refer to themselves as the "CEO/CFO" of the home economy. It is disrespectful and insulting to people who hold a f/t position outside of the home while juggling parenthood.

Well, you are not juggling parenthood. You are paying someone to take care of your kids and you get to spend the least amount of time with your child. You are a part time parent at best. Yes, you are a working woman who brings in a paycheck - but you are not a full time parent. And even when you are present, you are tired and distracted and not giving 100% to your child.

In a household that does not require the paycheck, your contribution is that of a part time parent. In a two parent household, one parent will always be unavailable for the duration of the work day. For the children to not have both the parents is not optimal. However, good child care providers fill in the role of the SAHP in raising the kids. So, go an thank the nanny and day care provider for stepping in an being a parent to your kid in the time that you are not.

Your saying that you are juggling parenthood is disrespectful and insulting to parents who stay with their kids and raise them.

Wow - you and the PP you refer to really just embody the worst of DCUM and of parents in general. I don't care if people call themselves CEO of their homes. What is wrong with you that THAT, of all things, bothers you ? You are pathetic to get riled up about that.

And SAHM poster, you took the bait and are being so nasty, too. I WOHM and am confident that I am a great parent, so I see no need to cut down others to make myself feel better. The two of you should be ashamed of yourselves. Go back and read what you wrote. THAT is pathetic.

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I find it pathetic when people refer to themselves as the "CEO/CFO" of the home economy. It is disrespectful and insulting to people who hold a f/t position outside of the home while juggling parenthood.

Well, you are not juggling parenthood. You are paying someone to take care of your kids and you get to spend the least amount of time with your child. You are a part time parent at best. Yes, you are a working woman who brings in a paycheck - but you are not a full time parent. And even when you are present, you are tired and distracted and not giving 100% to your child.

In a household that does not require the paycheck, your contribution is that of a part time parent. In a two parent household, one parent will always be unavailable for the duration of the work day. For the children to not have both the parents is not optimal. However, good child care providers fill in the role of the SAHP in raising the kids. So, go an thank the nanny and day care provider for stepping in an being a parent to your kid in the time that you are not.

Your saying that you are juggling parenthood is disrespectful and insulting to parents who stay with their kids and raise them.

Okaay, how much is your allowance?

LOL. You are funny! First of all, I have my own earned money, inheritance, and property. I handle the household finances and I have a right over 50% of whatever DH has earned. No prenup. DH is from a moneyed family too and also has inheritance that will come to him. So, money is immaterial.

I do not need an allowance. I do have a budget for the chap who mows my lawn and the maid who comes in twice a week, but I made that budget.

Money is a great thing if it allows you to spend more time with your family.

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I find it pathetic when people refer to themselves as the "CEO/CFO" of the home economy. It is disrespectful and insulting to people who hold a f/t position outside of the home while juggling parenthood.

Well, you are not juggling parenthood. You are paying someone to take care of your kids and you get to spend the least amount of time with your child. You are a part time parent at best. Yes, you are a working woman who brings in a paycheck - but you are not a full time parent. And even when you are present, you are tired and distracted and not giving 100% to your child.

In a household that does not require the paycheck, your contribution is that of a part time parent. In a two parent household, one parent will always be unavailable for the duration of the work day. For the children to not have both the parents is not optimal. However, good child care providers fill in the role of the SAHP in raising the kids. So, go an thank the nanny and day care provider for stepping in an being a parent to your kid in the time that you are not.

Your saying that you are juggling parenthood is disrespectful and insulting to parents who stay with their kids and raise them.

Anonymous wrote:OP, this comment does not bode well. I wouldn't quit my job if my partner had even a hint of this attitude. You and he need to talk in more detail. I think there will be a big swing in the power dynamic if you quit working, and it will not be good for you.