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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Although I find the email a bit obnoxious,  I wish I would have been more vocal with my IL's.  2 weeks fter my DD was born my MIL and FIL came from out of town to visit. I had a c-section and developed mastitis.   I was running a high fever and had to be put on an antibiotic.  Breast feeding was the most painful experience of my life during these few days.  The night before my ILs came they called to tell us that my SIL would also be coming. My DH explained how sick I was and that we were having a hard few days.  So, the next day my SIL calls on her way here and asks me if I am preparing lunch for them or if she would need to stop to eat.  I told her to call her brother and reiterated that I was having some trouble with pain and feeding the baby and that he was in charge of entertaining them. She shows up with her daughter and her new boyfriend I had met once.  [b]Now, we had a house full of people who sat in my dining room or living room having a fun little party for about 8 hours.[/b]  I was lying in my room with baby.  They had the nerve to tell my DH that I was rude for not visiting with all of them and hiding out in my room.  I was a mess physically and in a lot of pain.  I couldn't even wear a bra and they wanted me to entertain them.

My point with this story is that if I could go back I would totally put restrictions on my IL's.  Some people are just plain rude.  [/quote]

DH:  "Actually, Wife is in a good deal of pain and we really need to get the house back to ourselves.  Thanks so much for visiting.  We'll see you next week/next month/next year."  (Stand up and start cleaning up and moving toward door.)

I understand some people are clueless and will be offended when boundaries are drawn.  I have these relatives too.  We all do.  My BIL, who I loathe, showed up with Five Guys and wanted to sit around watching an 8pm football game loudly on the TV for several hours when my baby was just weeks old and it was the time of night when I would normally cluster nurse because baby was fussy.  My DH told him to eat his burger and go home.  What is more important in this situation?  Protecting the feelings of an asshole relative or reclaiming your own home when you're not feeling well or you're having a tough time?

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