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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always write "Jane and John Doe". [b]I figure that even if you're not Jane Doe, I'm still correct?[/b]

I only write "Jane Smith and John Doe" on my unmarried, living together friends cards. [/quote]

Nope.[/quote]

I think this is correct. Technically her name isn't next to the last name, it's just avoiding using her last name?

What's your family name if you don't hyphenate or take your DH's last name? Smith Family and Jane Doe?[/quote]

OMG, seriously, are you this dense?  The family name would be "The Smith & Doe Family."  They are one family with multiple last names.  It's really not rocket science.  Why would it be Hislastname Family with her as an outlier?  They are one family.[/quote]

exactly. They are one family. But if 3 of them have the family last name and she has her married last name, it's not really Smith & Doe Family.

I assume the women who don't take their DH's last name don't monogram? Or buy thing that say "Smith Family"? There's never enough room for the huge hyphenation or ampersand. [/quote]Seriously, do people even monogram anymore?  Can't imagine this being a concern at all.[/quote]

Is this for real? [b]My sheets are monogrammed, I have a door sign outside that says "The Smith Family", my stationary is monogrammed, I have a monogram on my wreath, cell phone case is monogrammed, my luggage is monogrammed....[/b]

Serious question though: if you didn't take your DH's last name, does that mean you're never a "Mrs."? Or are you still a "Mrs. Smith" even though your last name is Doe officially? (I assume you can't be a Mrs. Doe? because that's your mother?) [/quote]

That is really unusual behavior in my experience.  I literally cannot think of one person in my circle of friends, family, and colleagues who has anything monogrammed as far as I have seen.  Certainly not luggage or cell phone cases or clothing.  I've gotten maybe a handful of monogrammed thank you notes in my life, and all of those were from older women.

As for Mrs., I really don't know anyone who calls themselves Mrs. who isn't an elementary school teacher or over the age of 60.  Even the women I know who change their names to their husbands use Ms. as their title, both professionally and personally.  I have occasionally been addressed as Mrs. MyLastName by my son's pediatrician's receptionist, but that's about it.  I can't imagine that I would use the title even if I had taken my husband's name.  (FWIW, my husband is occasionally addressed as Mr. MyLastName and it doesn't bother him at all, as it shouldn't, since they are all names in our family and I get called his, too.)[/quote]

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