Reply to Am i wrong for being angry DH wants to change careers?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Am i wrong for being angry DH wants to change careers?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I confess, I was surprised to see such a split of opinion here. Barring any financial crisis that going back to school would create (and I suspect that if it would, the OP would have mentioned it up front), this seems like a no-brainer to me. This guy wants to spend two years going back to school to train for essentially a lateral move that will allow him to make more money working fewer hours in the long run. Yes, he will probably have less time for your younger son in the next 1 1/2 years, but that's not the same as no time, and their relationship will not be defined by this single period. In fact, I imagine that if your DH can work fewer hours in his second career, he'll be in a even better position to spend time with his kids and develop those relationships than he does now.

On the money front, he's hoping to keep working for another 10-15 years. Given how you described your respective financial contributions, it seems like this would be wonderful for shoring up your retirement. What happens if he ends up completely burned out in five years and want to retire earlier because he can't bear to go into the office anymore? Switching careers seems like it could potentially be a very good move for you guys.

And then on his personal well-being, it sounds like he's pretty bored with his current career. Finding something new and intellectually engaging has been strongly correlated with increased health and vitality, and a longer life span. Assuming you like your husband, this seems like a pretty good deal, doesn't it?

Just my perspective. Of course, I'm a SAHM who has repeatedly told her somewhat professionally burned-out spouse that if he could just find the thing he loved and pursue it, I'd go back to work, sell the house, move to a less expensive area, etc. Because fulfillment matters.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics