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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here...I have to laugh at the posts who said it sounds like I want free babysitting.  I have explained we have a nanny who we pay for babysitting on a regular basis.  This has nothing to do with free babysitting.  This is a simple post about my own wishes verses reality of my parents involvement in my and my children's life.  The PP who wrote a grieving letter gets it...that is how I feel...like I am seeing my parents in a new light now that I am a parent and I need to just accept it although I wish it were different.  The PP's who wrote that my mom may have anxiety may be on to something.  My parents never want to have heart felt meaningful conversations...maybe this is part of the big picture and I should try to have an open conversation with them about this.
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My parents who live about an hour and half away are the same.  I was devastated when I had my first and it became clear all the talk about seeing us all the time was just that, talk.   They never ever come, I have to beg for birthday and holidays  but they won't spend the night even though we bough this house with its own guest suite just for those kind of visits with them in mind and told them so when we were buying it and they got all excited.  When I go down to their city to visit we always have to meet at a restaurant and when the meal is over they apologize and say they have appointments and just leave.  My kids are their ONLY grandchildren.  My 6 year old has started to notice.   Forget asking my parents to watch the 2 kids for an overnight or weekend.  Some years my inlaws see my kids more. And they live 3,000 miles away.

In their defense, when I had a horrible accident last year and needed emergency surgery and needed help because DH needed to be with me at the hospital my parents did come right away to help for a few days, and for that I am so grateful.  They also agreed to come up for grandparents day at my kids' school, which I was nervous they would back out of at the last minute.  I am so jealous of people who have more involved grandparents, of the friends whose parents live here or have moved here to be closer to the kids.[/quote]

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