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[quote=Anonymous]OP if you are still here: We are 65. We have been lucky all our lives, successful, Ivy grads, well off and the kids are grown. We are grandparents. 65 is young for some, but not for others. Two in our group have diabetes and therefore poor vision. (not everyone has this) That limits driving, but we don't want to lay the burden on the kids so we just say, well, I don't think I can meet you in Kings Dominion. We have one case of Alzheimer's. I know, early it was not supposed to happen, but there it is. Not talked about much -- it came on gradually. No babysitting, obviously. We have two with mild dementia (why? why? why?) we have a degenerative nerve condition. We have one who somehow weighs 300 lbs (how did that happen?) We have one who has a wasting condition of the arteries that unfortunately also passed down to her brilliant son. One has crippling anxiety and depression.
Each of these people has a spouse who is in good health, so in general it is not known about the condition of the other. People are not really that ... Well, it just is better to seem younger and problem free.
None of that leads to an active life of taking trips and being shiny grandparents. It is hard enough to get thorough   the day to day. They REALLY don't want to hear that they should: get a hobby, exercise more, come over and stand in the hot sun for the soccer game, sit in the hot gym for the recital, drive to Williamsburg for the state finals, eat right and stay fit, develop a hobby, travel to Tibet...
No need to re explain this time and time again. People don't tell you everything -- they don't want you to worry. Could this be your parents?[/quote]

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