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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your parents spent 18 years babysitting you and another 4 years paying for your college.

Now it's their time for themselves, to use however they want for the years that remain to them. If smoking on a ratty sofa watching reality shows makes them happy, then let them do it.

It may be less family time than you (or I) would like, but they've earned have a right to make their own choices now. As long as they make a reasonable effort to respect family ties and obligations, you have no right to demand they do more. Guilting them into babysitting your kids is just unfair.[/quote]

WTH?  Raising children = babysitting?  Some of you really are pathological.[/quote]

No. Some of us can simply see another point of view beyond our own.

Also, the choice of the word "babysitting" was probably shorthand for [b]"hard work[/b]" (but you knew that, you're trying to stir the pot).

Try putting yourselves in the parents' shoes: this is their time to enjoy their remaining years as they wish. Yes, many of us actually enjoyed the hard work and sacrifice that comes with parenting. But you can't deny that it's hard work and sacrifice. Some people need a break after they're done with their own kids.  If they don't want to babysit OP's kids, that's their prerogative. OP may wish for something else, and so would I. But OP's parents aren't some extension of OP's ideal family life that she hopes to project onto everybody else. OP needs to accept that her parents have their own lives and their own priorities.

She needs to put herself in their shoes. (And so do you, PP, instead of playing childish games of distorting posts to stir the pot. Really.)[/quote]

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