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Also, yes, make sure you're not narrowing your pool too much by wanting a very specific type of guy.  So you want a 6'2" guy who makes good money, has good hair and doesn't have baggage?  SO DOES EVERYONE.  Give the 5'10" balding guy with the kid a chance if he's nice and can carry on a good conversation with you.  I'm not saying for someone you find dumb or boring, but to expand your idea of "good catch."  a "good catch" is a guy who likes being with you, with whom you enjoy spending time.[/quote]

Totally agree with this.  I never had a laundry list of criteria.  Instead of only dating men that had this or that, I dated anyone who did not have my deal-breakers.  None of my deal-breakers are monetary, and yes, one is physical.  Taller than me, but I'm 5'4", so not being that selective!  I created a large dating pool because I'm 40 and divorced with two young kids.  This is not everyone's ideal (as evidenced frequently on this board), just like that balding guy with a little belly, may not have been your first choice if you had your pick.

Current BF is not a guy I would have picked on my own, but when he asked me out, I was in a "yes" phase.  He won me over from there.  Looks wise, he wasn't even close to what I would say is my type.  He's still attractive to me, and much, much more so now than on our first date.  I was open to the possibilities.

Also, everyone is saying, "nice."  I think I'm nice.  But I also have a sarcastic sense of humor, have a lot going on and can get stressed.  Rather than "be nice," I would suggest being very positive.  Not fake, but generally think of something positive rather than a complaint.  Restaurant sucks, say "thanks for making the reservations, I still had a great time talking to you."  I know you have to nab the guy first, but these are subtle things that are not hard to change.  It's really just doing some things differently.[/quote]

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