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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it interesting that a lot of threads in DCUM seem to be White parents "analyzing" or attemtping to analyze how other races parent. We have threads like this and threads about Asian "Tiger moms."  What's this all about?  I do not think that parents of any race parent "monolithically" and I think that you will find that good and bad parents come in all races.  Why this push to make certain parenting methods the province of one race or another?  What is the point?[/quote]

What's more entertaining a calm, quiet discussion where parties concur with and concede to one another or a knock down drag out opinionated brawl of obtuse assumptions and assessments?  Exactly...the latter.  The threads that revolve around argument are the ones that receive all the attention as everyone wants to add their two cents and be a part of the melee.  Now it may be possible to get some parents fussing back and forth about feeding a friend's child peanut butter without asking whether or not that child is allergic or not - but let's be honest the odds of such a fracas developing are slim to none.  So...since that won't work and is unlikely to garner much attention what's another sure-fire way to rile people up and get a good argument going?  Exactly...race.[/quote]

I agree some OPs intend to rile people up and start fires, but not all. I think some really are asked under the cloak of anonymity because that is the only way OP would feel comfortable in asking. 
But while DCUM is entertaining, I don't necessarily ALWAYS want to be entertained. And I don't necessarily like feeling that each thread is a Real Housewives episode of drama, rudeness, and cattiness. We should be able to have mature exchanges, disagree and have healthy debate without disrespect.[/quote]

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And let's not forget the ever-important element of emotion when it comes to our discourses.  Communication is not as simple as it seems.  In addition to the fact that not everyone is adept at expressing themselves in writing and may not be as politically correct or considerate of others as some would like, you also have to factor into the equation the fact that not everyone is adept at interpreting information presented in writing and may be easily emotionally aggravated by interpretations of inconsideration and a lack of political correctness.  Plain and simply put not every slight is intentional and quite a few slights are not even there - we're just hypersensitive and perceive slights where there are none.  No doubt some people are gonna say some dumb shit and deliberately piss folks off.  But, bear in mind, some people are gonna say some pretty perceptive shit that makes a lot of sense but still pisses folks off because of how it was worded or because of how it was interpreted.  Gotta find a way to wade through all the nonsense.[/quote]

I am the first PP. I hear you but there seems to be a MO to these threads that do not lend themselves to constructive dialogue.  First the thread title - a pretty overreaching and general title that implies all memebers of a racial group.  Then there is some variation of "I do not mean to be racist but......"  There is some description of behavior (usually negative) and personal commentary on such behavior (usually that such behavior is negative).  Then there ususally is a question "Why do [insert racial group here] do this?"

IMO, there was nothing hypersensitive or perceived about the OP's post. She sees parents who are less than ideal parents and happen to be AA.  Somehow that becomes a referendum on Black moms.  I live in a predominately White neighborhood and I see those parents letting their kids get away with murder. Never occurred to me to get on here and write a post about "White parents and ill mannered children."  Why?  Because I am smart and wordly enough to know that the behavior that I see is not indicative of all White parents and I know AA parents who parent the same way.

It is not unreasonable for someone to get emotional about a post when the intent of that post is to put them on the defensive and impute behavior to them that is not relevant. [/quote]

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