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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't mean this in a snarky way but I think you would benefit from some education counseling to help you develop a more realistic understanding of life and not worry so much.  I understand your DD is treading a totally different path than what you're accustomed to - one that you have very little insight to and that worries you.  You need some help understanding it. $50K a year is absolutely enough to live on especially if it's only you you're supporting.  I gently suggest you re-think your ideas about the need for college in order to have a good life.  There's absolutely nothing wrong with blue collar or service jobs.  It's honest work and even in the worst economy, people need plumbers and hair stylists.

I think it's unrealistic for you to think that your DD will do well in college - not because she is of low average intelligence but because she hates school so much now and isn't interested in academics.  College is far harder than high school.  Even people of low average intelligence can do well in the subjects they're interested in.  It doesn't seem as if your DD has found a passion.  Also, if your DD isn't physically well enough to attend high school what makes you think she'd be able to move away to attend college?  Why insist on college immediately after high school?  Why not a gap year?  Let her get a job for a while and see how that works out.  See if she stays healthy enough to keep a job.  How about taking a class or two locally?  It'd be far cheaper, would give you both a better idea of how college might be for her and would make the transition to living on a campus easier.  Having some work/volunteer experience might give her a better idea of what she'd like to do in her life.

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I agree, thanks, and that's what I am doing. I am re-thinking my understanding of both what it takes to support oneself, as well as my own ideas about college being an absolute requirement. That's why I posted! :)
I'm open to every idea, including gap years as well as part time college.  Or no college, I don't know.  that's why I am asking...I don't know what I don't know.
I can totally see how making 45/50k annually would be enough to support yourself. But assumedly, someday, she is going to have a family. And like PP said, no one plans on getting divorced.  So I am wondering, what does one do when they have made 45k a year, have kids, are divorced, and suddenly on their own? I have many friends in that position (some have worked full time jobs making lower salaries, some have only worked part time) and they are completely and totally devastated. one has just gone on welfare. I want my daughter to be fully self sufficient, always.  Married and happy, hopefully! But always self sufficient.  (and no, I am not divorced and feeling jilted or anything, I am married and I am the breadwinner in the family.  This is just from seeing many women in really horrible circumstances because they don't have self sufficient income).

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