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[quote=Anonymous]Guess what OP? I did suffer from infertility and finally got pregnant through IVF. When I was going through treatments I often rolled my eyes at those woe-laden posts about how infertiles would burst into tears if a pregnant woman sat next to them on the metro or how they skipped Christmas because of a new niece/nephew or how they skipped their best friend's baby shower or how they unfriended people with baby pictures on Facebook. For whatever reason I had the opposite reaction to infertility. I smiled at every pregnant woman I saw, I held every baby I could, I begged friends to tell me all about their pregnancies and babies. I just wanted to soak up all those positive baby vibes.

BUT- I never thought people who experience extreme depression or jealousy were wrong or selfish. Yes it is hard for me to understand why they feel that way, but their feelings are still real to them and I respect their right to feel that way and try to be thoughtful with my actions and comments.

Also have you considered that maybe your parents are talking about your pregnancy a lot and Bro and SIL and just sick of hearing about it?

Yes her behavior makes no sense to you. Lots of things in life don't make sense. You need to move on. If you are really concerned, I suggest you have an email conversation with your brother along the following lines- "hey bro- I sense that my pregnancy has been an awkward time for you and SIL. The last thing I want to do is cause you pain. Can we talk about how you want me to handle the birth announcement and bringing the baby to family events?" Do it over email so they have time to process and think. Think of how unfair it would be for them to miss out on a lot of holidays and family events because suddenly the world revolves around your baby.

It sounds like you have trouble putting yourself in other people's shoes and being thoughtful, so getting some explicit instructions on compromises that will make things easier for B and SIL is probably needed. Make sure the grandparents are aware too so they don't try to put the baby in SIL's arms or whatever you agreed not to do. [/quote]

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