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Yes we have two. Four years and two months. I still manage to get a shower and fix my hair and makeup and get dressed everyday. I don't care if others don't do it but I like to look nice for myself AND for my husband. Really not sure why this position is getting so much pushback on this thread. I didn't realize it had become a character flaw to want to keep yourself up. [/quote]

NP.  I think you're getting pushback because the OP (and some subsequent posts) came across as: 
(1) Doing this primarily for your husband in some kind of 50s throwback, not because it makes you feel good too, and brings to mind playing games to 'keep' your man.  I hope that we all try to do nice things for our spouses because we value their happiness, but I can understand how the way this was originally posted rubbed folks the wrong way.
(2) Judgmental of women who don't do this.

I think it's great to spend time doing things to make your spouse happy and to do things that make you feel good about yourself, and if those are low time commitment / big payoff items even better.  It's just important to remember that what those things will look like will vary widely between individuals and couples.[/quote] The reason the OP is getting pushback is that she started this thread asking a question about whether she should  continue to fix herself up before her husband got home, but immediately shifted gears to, "It takes NO time, I don't understand why everyone doesn't do it.  What is wrong with you people?  Slovenly bitches."  She is a disingenuous twat, and a troll.  For reference:

[quote]I work P/T, have 2 kids under 6. I get home a few hours before he does, and feed the kids before he comes in. When my H texts to say he is on the way home, I do a quick "touch up" - brush my hair and teeth, remove the smudged makeup from under my eyes, etc. Takes about 5 mins. Not sure if H even notices but I feel like I should at least try to not look like a train wreck when he comes in. I remember my mom always had mascara smudges on her eyelids and under her eyes and it bugged ME. I also try and ensure the kitchen is clean and the house looks semi-decent.

Am I working too hard? Wondering if I need to let some things (mainly ME) go...    [/quote][/quote]

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