Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 14:11     Subject: Re:do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. But it literally takes 5 mins. I don't understand why people wouldn't. I am not talking about more than a quick brush of hair and teeth and removal of raccoon eyes. Maybe I am doing it more for ME than for him - I look in the mirror and think "wow, today kicked YOUR ass" and I feel better once I am more pulled together.


I think its great for you, especially if you're doing it for yourself and makes you feel good.

But you say you don't understand why others wouldn't... Well, I just don't spend a lot of time on my appearance. I don't wear makeup, and my hair is almost always in a ponytail, so nothing to brush. My husband hates makeup anyway, so this works for us. Different strokes.


Oh my gosh. Are you me? I could have written the same post. I don't even own makeup. I just cut my hair into a bob so only half ponytails for me right now. I don't have a hair dryer either.

I shower at night. Hate showering in the morning.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 14:03     Subject: Re:do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
ROFL OMG. I get home from work after DH (and no, I'm pretty sure he doesn't "fix himself up" for me....)
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:54     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was the one who said it takes no time, I'm not the OP. I was personally puzzled by all the people mocking her for wearing some eye makeup. And all the people writing, LOLOLOLOLOLLL you put on eyeshadow? WTF!!!"

Obviously I am not dolled up to the nines all the time, but it sounds like some people just want to believe they really shouldn't try to look nicer. That's your choice, but people don't go blind when they take their vows. I wouldn't expect a man to never comb his hair or change out of sweatpants either.


SHHHHH! You're going to anger the frumps who insist that their husbands should love them, even when they wear sweats and crocs daily. Otherwise, you know, he's shallow and materialistic. Oh, and by the way, those same frumps will come on here and support each other in the idea that "DH" needs to lose weight because he's not attractive anymore. Frumps are a waste. Just so we're clear, I would never expect someone to get dolled up (or cleaned up) all the time, but to suggest that NEVER is ok is what makes these women terrible.


A. Freaking. Men. I am a woman and I find these shrews hilarious, to be honest. As if they are truly happy looking like dumpy old ladies every single day. They'll keep arguing though, so we can keep laughing!
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:54     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
I like the larger question this post has brought up which is - why do we often see women acting like they don't want to look nice for their husbands?

Why do women spend more time and make greater efforts to prepare for a first date when you hardly know they guy vs deep into a loving committed relationship?

Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:50     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
Anonymous wrote:I was the one who said it takes no time, I'm not the OP. I was personally puzzled by all the people mocking her for wearing some eye makeup. And all the people writing, LOLOLOLOLOLLL you put on eyeshadow? WTF!!!"

Obviously I am not dolled up to the nines all the time, but it sounds like some people just want to believe they really shouldn't try to look nicer. That's your choice, but people don't go blind when they take their vows. I wouldn't expect a man to never comb his hair or change out of sweatpants either.


SHHHHH! You're going to anger the frumps who insist that their husbands should love them, even when they wear sweats and crocs daily. Otherwise, you know, he's shallow and materialistic. Oh, and by the way, those same frumps will come on here and support each other in the idea that "DH" needs to lose weight because he's not attractive anymore. Frumps are a waste. Just so we're clear, I would never expect someone to get dolled up (or cleaned up) all the time, but to suggest that NEVER is ok is what makes these women terrible.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:50     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
When I get home from work and change out of my suit, I tend to change into clothes that reflect what my wife is wearing. If she looks nice, I'll look nice too. If not, then not.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:47     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
I was the one who said it takes no time, I'm not the OP. I was personally puzzled by all the people mocking her for wearing some eye makeup. And all the people writing, LOLOLOLOLOLLL you put on eyeshadow? WTF!!!"

Obviously I am not dolled up to the nines all the time, but it sounds like some people just want to believe they really shouldn't try to look nicer. That's your choice, but people don't go blind when they take their vows. I wouldn't expect a man to never comb his hair or change out of sweatpants either.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:47     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
Anonymous wrote:I wash my ass every night before bed. Brush my teeth, use mouthwas and try to look passably sexy just in case sex happens that night. It's the little things.


It really doesn't take that long to freshen up.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:37     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
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Yes we have two. Four years and two months. I still manage to get a shower and fix my hair and makeup and get dressed everyday. I don't care if others don't do it but I like to look nice for myself AND for my husband. Really not sure why this position is getting so much pushback on this thread. I didn't realize it had become a character flaw to want to keep yourself up.


NP. I think you're getting pushback because the OP (and some subsequent posts) came across as:
(1) Doing this primarily for your husband in some kind of 50s throwback, not because it makes you feel good too, and brings to mind playing games to 'keep' your man. I hope that we all try to do nice things for our spouses because we value their happiness, but I can understand how the way this was originally posted rubbed folks the wrong way.
(2) Judgmental of women who don't do this.

I think it's great to spend time doing things to make your spouse happy and to do things that make you feel good about yourself, and if those are low time commitment / big payoff items even better. It's just important to remember that what those things will look like will vary widely between individuals and couples.
The reason the OP is getting pushback is that she started this thread asking a question about whether she should continue to fix herself up before her husband got home, but immediately shifted gears to, "It takes NO time, I don't understand why everyone doesn't do it. What is wrong with you people? Slovenly bitches." She is a disingenuous twat, and a troll. For reference:

I work P/T, have 2 kids under 6. I get home a few hours before he does, and feed the kids before he comes in. When my H texts to say he is on the way home, I do a quick "touch up" - brush my hair and teeth, remove the smudged makeup from under my eyes, etc. Takes about 5 mins. Not sure if H even notices but I feel like I should at least try to not look like a train wreck when he comes in. I remember my mom always had mascara smudges on her eyelids and under her eyes and it bugged ME. I also try and ensure the kitchen is clean and the house looks semi-decent.

Am I working too hard? Wondering if I need to let some things (mainly ME) go...
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:15     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
Anonymous wrote:The most exciting thing a wife could do is welcome her husband home with the smell of her pussy on her fingers. Telling her husband that she could NOT wait to have him home.

Winning


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_jDszs_0pms
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 12:22     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
The most exciting thing a wife could do is welcome her husband home with the smell of her pussy on her fingers. Telling her husband that she could NOT wait to have him home.

Winning
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 12:20     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would say most days yes. Brush hair, reapply lipstick, little things like that. Every once in awhile like today when it's ugly and cold out, I get into sweats and don't give a fuck. But overall I do try to make sure he comes home and sees me looking good.


What is your fear that you think will happen if he doesn't see you looking good?


Yes, I wonder this too. Do you have kids?


Yes we have two. Four years and two months. I still manage to get a shower and fix my hair and makeup and get dressed everyday. I don't care if others don't do it but I like to look nice for myself AND for my husband. Really not sure why this position is getting so much pushback on this thread. I didn't realize it had become a character flaw to want to keep yourself up.


Because the DC slobs fear women like you. Their husbands may actually want to look at you if you don't look like a nondescript, baggy-clothes wearing train wreck.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 12:02     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would say most days yes. Brush hair, reapply lipstick, little things like that. Every once in awhile like today when it's ugly and cold out, I get into sweats and don't give a fuck. But overall I do try to make sure he comes home and sees me looking good.


What is your fear that you think will happen if he doesn't see you looking good?


Yes, I wonder this too. Do you have kids?


Yes we have two. Four years and two months. I still manage to get a shower and fix my hair and makeup and get dressed everyday. I don't care if others don't do it but I like to look nice for myself AND for my husband. Really not sure why this position is getting so much pushback on this thread. I didn't realize it had become a character flaw to want to keep yourself up.


Because, many women become frumps after marriage. No more lingerie and heels. It's all sweats and crocs. And then they come to this website, "I think my husband doesn't find me attractive anymore."
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 11:59     Subject: do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
Do you like doing it and does he appreciate it? If there's a yes to at least one of these questions, keep doing what you're doing and don't let any frumps on here talk you out of it.