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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I could have written your post. I'm married to a man who is kind and a great husband and father. BUT, he's a total beta who allows me to make almost all of the decisions in our marriage. I actually had a talk with him about a month ago about my frustration with things as they stand.

[b]While I am an assertive person by nature and will instinctly seek to take the lead, I've come to realize that I only do this when I don't sense another lead present.[/b] I let my husband know that if he assumed the lead on things, I would HAPPILY revel in knowing he has things under control. It would be a DREAM to be able to rely on my mate to make sure everything was okay.

Like you, I don't want to be the primary decision maker. Rather than assume I want this role, what my husband doesn't get is that I do it because otherwise nothing would get done. I agree that it is exhausting to be consulted on every little move. My husband is the type to get a job and stay there while also complaining to me about his unhappiness. He needs my input on things that are either simple or easy to Google (how to do a PowerPoint, correctly formatting an email, etc). He claims he wants to go back to school, but won't do it unless I help him every step of the way (filling out application, FAFSA, choosing classes, etc). He shows NO desire to figure out things on his own and it's frustrating as hell.

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Bingo!![/quote]

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