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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why not ask him to pay 50/50? I assume if you're engaged and living together that you should feel comfortable to ask him and he should be willing to pay his share. If not, than take it as a red flag.

Sorta sounds like he's a mooch with bare minimal contributions and you sound like you're a doormat b/c you haven't said anything for 4 years and you feel "guilty" about asking him. [/quote]

I have asked and he says that he is not there to support me and kids that are not his, and that he should not have to pay rent like a tenant, but doesn't want to split things like an engaged couple. Not sure if bills should be added up and divided by 4 or figure who uses how much and what. He says "why should he split electric for a pool pump that he doesn't use" etc. Just want to figure out what is fair and agreeable for everyone. [/quote]

I am betting he will not go through with the marriage and you'll be one of those couples with a wedding date, but no set year. He has no benefit for marriage (why buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free?). If he's not willing to take the whole package (pool pump, kids, household expenses, etc.) now as you two, technically, are prepping for marriage as an engaged couple, than what makes you think he's going to push ahead for a lifelong commitment to all your expenses? Don't convince yourself that making each other laugh, your common interests, and great the sex outweigh the reality of bills, emotional support, and father-figure. 
You have 8 pages of advice to end the relationship or at least live separately until the finances work themselves out.

Remember, the number one reason for divorce is money. Like it or not, it is already coming between you and him and you aren't even married yet. [/quote]

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