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[quote=Anonymous]I am probably going to upset a lot of people but here goes:

He has no obligation either legal or moral to take care of your children. For a start you are not married and even if you were, the financial support of your children is the responsibility of you and their biological father. If the father does not do so that is a problem you have to deal with. To the extent that he (your fiance) does support the kids, it is an act of generosity on his part.

He should pay more towards the upkeep of the house and related expenses than he is doing. I am not sure he should pay one half because you and your children also live there and he is not obligated to pick up the tab for your children.

If you do get married, he has every right to want a pre-nup as and you should have one too in order to protect your assets. The apportionment of ongoing financial obligations would be more shared - with him bearing a heavier share - after marriage just by virtue of the fact that you are married and he earns more than you do. Yes, he needs to accept the children as part of the family unit but he is not obligated to pay for their education, activities, clothes, etc. If he develops a close relationship with the kids, he will likely want to help them more - but that is his call.

He can do what he wishes with the property and assets that he acquired before marriage including leaving it to his niece. You will have a legal right to a portion of assets acquired after marriage in the event of his death. It may mean fighting it in court.

The one thing I do agree with PPs' is that this is not a union made in heaven and the odds are that it will fail given the nature of your relationship and his personality. I also agree with PPs' that in the interests of your own self-esteem you should not allow him to walk all over you. It is not good for you or your children.

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