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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Since OP is still around, I will assume this is for real, but as a divorced mother of 2, I’m having trouble believing it.

I’m especially concerned that you are not reading and understanding what EVERY PP has said to you.  This isn’t a close call.  This is a situation where you are clinging to someone who has said, not beating around the bush, at all…that he’s not looking to be your partner in life and he’s not even interested in being a parental figure to your kids.  I get that they have a father, and maybe you don’t need/want that extent of a relationship…but they will be part of his “family,” should you get married (which I concur is a horrific idea!!!!!!!!!).  You can get laughs and some good sex from another guy.  And maybe, just maybe, that guy will treat you properly, want to take care of you (even if you don’t let him or want that) and will want to love your kids and have your kids show love back.  I would run for the hills from any guy who doesn’t view my kids as a wonderful asset to our lives.  Putting the very strange financial arrangements aside, I’m concerned that you want to be with (and live with!) a man that doesn’t want to be a family with you.  This is troubling.  I cringe thinking about these financial discussions.  That’s not your biggest problem though.  This is not the right guy for you, on any level.  Please consider talking to a neutral 3rd party who can help you to understand that this is not good for you.

I’m wondering, but scared to know the answer – how old are your kids and what do they think of the guy?  
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I am real and every single word of what I have posted has been true. I may be naive, I may want to believe that when someone tells me they love me they mean it, just because I always try to do right by everyone, does not mean that anyone else will also. I would never  cause someone pain for my own benefit and wanted to believe that no one would do that to me, does not me. I have always tried to look for the good in people. Thank you to everyone that responded it has been a heartbreaking eye opener.[/quote]

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