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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get off social media OP. You aren't secure enough to be on it.

The reality is that everyone is living their own life. Sometimes you'll be invited to join, and other times you won't. What matters is what you're doing on *your* journey. If you are happy with yourself, you'll be happy for your friends, even if you aren't at their party.[/quote]

Stop it, Pollyanna. Real people aren’t walking around with their head in the clouds feeling knowing, knowing nothing, existing in some parallel universe, with no real connections to others.[/quote]

Correct. Real people walk around knowing they are not invited to everyone's party and are ok with that, because they are busy living their own life. [/quote]

Not really. "Real" people often have thoughts about things and may be more emotional or sensitive than you. You are no more "real" because you've decided to feel detached about everything. In any case the issue here is this person is someone op considers a friend, her dh also knows the dh, and it sounds like op also knew the hostess of the party and many of the attendees. So of course she will have a thought about it and wonder if she's actually that good of a friend or in that circle if she was excluded for a fairly large party. It's not the same as someone you barely know having a party.[/quote]

The advice isn’t to stop having feelings or detach. The advice is to focus on what you do know about your friendship and not ruminate on negative feelings based on speculation. [/quote]

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