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[quote=Anonymous]Oh boy. I’ve experienced this sooo many times and it totally sucks OP. In your case, I think the woman could actually be your potential friend. I would just go with that idea until she gave me concrete proof of something different. She sounds innocent so far and may one of the rare really nice women needing a friend. It’s tough to say because she’s newer to you. She deserves a chance.

For contrast, I have a current group of user “friends” whom I used to do everything with including girls trips in the Spring for over a decade. I was recommending the next trip then discovered I suddenly wasn’t invited anymore when one of them put the pictures of a trip secretly they did without me on FB. Their husbands are also friends with my husband (we were a group) so eventually I knew all about it. Insult to injury, while they were on their trips, the other husbands would invite my husband to a new annual guys only cook out while I stayed home. It was hurtful and humiliating. This has gone on for four years now. They all cling to my husband because they desperately want to be associated with him. It’s gross.  I confronted one of them on leaving me out and she had the nerve to say “we’re just all closer”.  I had been confiding in that woman and the others about my personal life just days before on my birthday. They had previously kicked two other women out of the friend group so I should have known then. (I’m the only one still friends with those two)

So until you know this woman better, I would give her the benefit of the doubt and put her in the “maybe” category but don’t push her completely away. She isn’t the one who drew up the guest list. When she’s the one planning the party, if you are invited or not will be the tell. Until then, give her a chance, we can all use more real friends. I hope it works out! [/quote]

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