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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not go. I do not show up uninvited to a stranger's funeral. 
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WTF?? People are not invited to funerals unless you are like Princess Diana or someone else famous.[/quote]

PP you replied to. I am not Jewish. [b]I do not go to the funeral of a non-relative unless someone from that family asks me to come. [/b]I don't read death notices or obituaries. The only way I'd know there was a funeral is if someone told me. So then I'd need to be sent the time and place. If someone sends me the time and place, I assume I've been asked to go, and then I go. I wouldn't ask these details of my own volition unless it was the parent/sibling of my close friends. My best friend's husband lost a parent, the funeral was in NYC, and I was never asked to go, and I never got the feeling they wanted me to attend. They never sent me any details about it. We're still good friends.

Also, and maybe this is the most important - I do not believe that the crowd at a funeral indicates anything about the deceased or their family. I think that's why some posters think attending stranger's funerals is important. They want a crowd at their own.

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This is so, so strange to me.  My father passed away a few years ago, and two of my closest friends flew to the funeral.  It was such a thoughtful gesture, and no, I didn't invite them.  My mother was so touched.  We are at the age when friends' parents are going to start dying in bunches, and my spouse and I are adding a line item to our budget so we can go to the out of town funerals.  If they were local, there wouldn;t even be a question.  You go to support your friend, OR because you have a relationship with the deceased.  [/quote]

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