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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]17:37 you seem really defensive and hung up on the label.  This is the deal: whether one glass or fifty, what defines an alcoholic is the need - or perceived need - to drink alcohol and the inability to control that urge.  Sorry if this hits a nerve for you, but that's the reality.  [/quote]

I'm not defensive.  I just think it is kind of clueless and offensive to people who have had loved ones who are actual alcoholics to pretend that having 2 drinks/night is alcoholism.  Alcoholism has a clinical definition -- no matter how much you like those two drinks, it does not make you an alcoholic.  Get back to me when your loved one is literally falling over drunk in their puke; still drunk the next morning; and you literally fear for their lives.  Not all alcoholism is this severe all the time, but it is just stupid to act like two drinks is a "problem" any where close to the equivalent of true alcoholism, the kind that obviously threatens your health, job, and relationships.  [/quote]Pp, I don't think you're reading carefully what I and at least one other pp are saying.  We're talking about whether someone who has two to three drinks a day [i]has[/i] to have it.  People who can take it or leave it don't have a problem.  But if you can't function without it, you have a problem.  [b]And I have actual loved ones who were and are alcoholics[/b] so I know what I'm talking about.  You're not the only one who has been through this.

If you want to argue that you have suffered more than I because your alcoholic was falling over drunk in their own puke, that's fine with me. I'm guessing that you had it worse just based on this statement. But I watched my mom go off into her old age fuzzy-headed and self-medicating her anxiety and obsessing about her drink quotient when she could have been clear-minded and living a much fuller and rich life.  You want to say she wasn't a real alcoholic - fine. But she had a problem that made her old age much worse than it should have been and she would have been a lot better off if she had quit drinking.  [/quote]

New poster. Two drinks a night ruined her old age????? Fuzzy-headed and self-medicating? On two drinks?

My grandmother had her doctor write her a prescription for two glasses of red wine at dinner every night at her retirement home. She went into her old age smiling broadly, as happy as a clam. She had a good, long, happy life and loved her two glasses of wine.

This is a far cry from the PP's experience. 
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