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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]IRL, what are people supposed to refer to you as if they don't know you (and your name)?  Miss?  Won't some people get offended if we're assuming genders at this point?  It's gotten so ridiculous at this point what people are uptight about and it seems like many are just sitting around waiting to be offended....[/quote]

It's not rocket science. People who have manners never use those terms to talk to women. No one NEEDS to refer to anyone as dear, sweetie, etc. It's a habit you developed and you can stop anytime.[/quote]

Taking offense at every little thing is also a habit you developed and can stop at any time.

The vast majority of people who use these terms at this point are women who were socialized into it by the expectation that they be friendly and motherly to people even in professional settings.[/quote]

Stop saying offensive things and people won't be....offended. I can't believe I have to spell this out for grown-ups. Are you really THiS STUPID?[/quote]

I'm the PP and I'm not stupid, but now I'm getting why you are having a hard time with this.

You can't use an ounce of empathy to understand that MANY people who say this stuff do not consider it offensive, it's what they call everyone, and they were raised to speak this way? A waitress calling you hon or sweetie is not out to get you. That's just how she talks. If you are so much better and more sophisticated than she is, then surely you can have the good manners and patience to let it go, rather than call her stupid, which is inarguably ruder than calling someone "sweetie."[/quote]

[b]It is not about what you consider offensive. It's about people you call these names consider offensive[/b]. So you ARE that stupid. Plenty of people using the R word or the N word think it's totally fine, yet all the decent people know how offensive and wrong it is. It is also not about a waitress calling me sweetie. It's about a person in power calling me sweetie. So, sounds like you haven't learned how to communicate in addition to not learning any manners.[/quote]

It's actually not. Who made them right and me wrong?[/quote]

The fact that they find it offensive makes it wrong. The fact that you keep insisting on doing this when you know others find it offensive is what makes you wrong. If you can't express yourself without using these dumb names, you have failed at life. [/quote]

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