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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are focused on entirely the wrong thing here, which is why you are getting no sympathy. This should not be about your discomfort about the weird family member that sits in the corner and doesn’t interact with— that isn’t a real problem.

You should be focused on the fact that your husband has continued to engage in this tocis dynamic [b]where his mom does something egregious (which you fascinatingly haven’t described while giving us excruciating detail about her sitting in a corner), he “confronts” her (with no description of what that looks like) and then she doesn’t talk to you guys for months (which may or may not involve her actively staying she needs a break).[/b] Focus on THIS and whether your husband is interested in changing any of that. If he does, the only person he can change is himself and he might want a third party therapist to help him think it through. If he doesn’t want to change any of this, just go about your business on Xmas day with your kids. Your husband can sit in the corner with her if he chooses to do so.

None of us here have a clue if your husband wants anything to change, but you need to follow his lead. This is his circus and monkeys. You can tell him that you just cannot listen to him agonize about mom every time he has a fight with her. This is the boundary you can set and point him back to a therapist if he needs someone to vent to.[/quote]
I've been curious about all of this as well. Also, I find it interesting that she announces a time limit (a few months) when she cuts you off.[/quote]

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