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[quote=Anonymous]I think this all boils down to your experience with your first.  My first child didn't sleep or eat easily and it was rough.  While I was the in the midst of sleep deprevation a friend told me she was planning her second close to her first to get the "baby stage out of the way" and this resonated with me (who knows, could have been the sleep deprevation!).  In any case, we tried for our second and wound up with twins (21 mos older than the first).  However, knowing how tough my older one was,I made sure to line up professional help (family meant well, but not really helpful).  And going from 1 to 3 really wasn't that difficult. Yes - busy.  Yes - there are days like I am screaming all day long, but the older one is now 6 and the twins are now 4 and beginning when the younger two were around 3 (with the exception of a 6 mos potty training period - potty training twins is NOT fun) life is pretty manageable again.   For us,  since they are all close together (and all boys) they play well together letting us sleep in a bit on weekends, into the same things and on the same schedule.

Now of course if your first was an "easy" baby and then you have a second who is higher needs right when your first is entering toddlerhood (when even the easiest of babies need attention as they start walking, getting into things they should not) I can totally see how this is a huge shock! (like being dragged over shards of glass as the PP put it :)).

In terms of having a second 4 or so years apart from the first, now that I am out of the baby/toddler fog, I can totally see this being doable/enjoyable since the older one is more independent plus likely at preschool part of the day. What I think might be hard in beginning with this age separate is getting use the the infant stage again, but now that my kids are older I have the perspective that everything is a phase and that will pass.          [/quote]

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