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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The adoption occurred and is not up for debate. So “adoption not working” is not a frame that is going to get you far.

The presence of the 80 year old in the home may need to be reconsidered. You are responsible for your children first and that is how the law will treat this situation.

[b]This kid has been through extraordinary trauma and needs a lot of treatment. The recommendation for hospitalization may be apt. “Had contact with” therapists doesn’t sound like much has happened in that area. How much contact? What kind of therapy, and how recently?[/b][/quote]

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She was abused and likely neglected, which means her ability to for healthy attachments is damaged.  Think if her as an emotionally disabled person who needs therapy and support, but will never fully recover.  She might get to the point of functional which would be a great success.

You are her parent, but (likely) did not create this damage - unfortunately she came that way and your ONLY path forward is to finish raising her the best you can.  If you don't love/like her, legally you can send her out at 18, although that would also contribute to her abuse and trauma - probably again triggering all the neglect issues she experienced birth to 6.[/quote]

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