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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the real toxicity is when we blame others for anything that went wrong in our lives (and social media encourages it).  It's my parents' fault that so and so broke up with me. It's my parents' fault that I got fired. It's my parents' fault that that I'm divorced. It's my parents' fault that I didn't make the football team (cheer team or whatever). It's my parents' fault that I have low self-esteem. At some point, we need to stop with the blame game and take responsibility for our own thoughts and choices. I used to be this way and I regret the years that I lost with my parents because I wasted to much energy blaming them for anything that was wrong or negative in my life. [/quote]

It’s my parents’s fault that when I was forced to eat a plate of vomit in nursery school— because no one had told the school that I was “sick” — my parents chose not to believe me when I told them what had happened. I grew up unprotected in some pretty impactful ways. Is that close enough to “real toxicity” for you — or would you like some more examples?

Try not to project and overgeneralize too much.  You can own your own story and your own growth— without shifting to “we” and what “we” need to do — as you navigate your own regrets.

Oh, Happy Father’s Day.

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Even that is a poor example of serious abuse. It was called a bad day, a day when a poor decision was made. I don't even understand the eating of vomit part? You threw up and then ate your vomit? Someone made you eat your vomit? Or you were sick and were still made to go to school, then threw up (?) Come on! Are you carrying this throughout your life as a reason to be mad at your parents? For life? Life, then,  is going to be one disappointment  after another. And, you really have to eventually grow up. [/quote]

The nursery school staff forced me to eat a plate of vomit after I threw up my lunch.  
As to the rest, that’s you, not me. I never used any of the words that you’re using — with the exception of “toxicity “.  I’m simply trying to understand your working definition of toxicity.  Have a lovely Father’s Day.
Peace out.[/quote]

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